no pain , no gain

Last night , I met a good friend , long time no see , and she told me that I have been growing up more and more mature not like the guy just out from the campus, and change saponaceous. Saponaceous ?what ? I don’t understand her mean at all . I asked her why her said that . she smile to me :

‘there are other some means in your words , because you always said something directly before ,and getting the point , it is your character ,but now some things are different, you said anything with considerable and told something in a roundabout way. if I am not be your friend , I have not made sense of them. ,what train you like that ’

‘what is your mean? Can you expess it again in a simple and clear way ,I can understand it ,but I’d like to know what I have changed to be !’

‘may be you have suffered many experiences that you grew steady-going and mature......’

maybe my friend is right,I think  , these years , I have suffered many thing , involve career ,loving , affection, works, and so no, I can learn many things ,for example , work attitude, communicate method, cooperate manner. But I have paid my high cost to change into them , for example pains , bothers, dreads……who can know what happened ? I just consider I am a stupid guy , I was always at a disadvantage situation to doing anything I have to do . may be life give me something rejoice and consoles, failures bring me many challenges, also many pains ,too, but I believe I can accept and overcome them..

Generally speaking ,‘no pay ,no gain’