Responsibilities

Responsibilities

I first say that I’m not a good man. When it comes to affections between girl and boy, really, I’m at a little loss. Sometimes I encouraged myself that I was still a good man to do a good thing I thought, may be better or worse; On the other hand, in some cases, I negated myself that, really was I capable to deal with some thing well? I feel disappointed toward the past. I was not able to treat well some important people around me. People often say that you know when you lose, at moments, that’s just my situation. Looking back the road I was walking up to now makes me a little gloom. You might have a golden childhood or a cheerful schooldays and you feel sorry that days won’t come back again or the days you had filled with some pain or even you hadn’t. When I open the door of my memory I do feel sorry so much and, in most cases I even don’t know why. But one of reasons I may know is I lack for responsibilities in the past. Anyhow what I do now and later is to repair the road I walk and walk steadily. I beg for nothing but seldom making mistakes on my way and seldom walking crooked road.

Today I’m talking about responsibility due to a talk between my friends and I. And it makes me think of some things above. One of my friends is going to get married. Last night several guys got together and chatted about something on girl and boy. He said that once his girl asked him after having sex in bed if he was able to look after her for ever. To my surprise, he replied, “what! I even don’t know whose that little thing in your belly is.” Besides he told me that, “you find no girl that is innocent in the world any more and the girls now are not the same as those girls before, they are dirty. She was in another man’s arms before your marriage and she was not necessary to belong to you after marriage.”

I said, yes, but some girls, not all. The innocent, the clear and the pure are just out there. If you believe, change your pessimistic attitude, find with much good care and you know the difference. Love a girl not because of the sexual desire, it’s because you like her, that is a want to the whole perfect life. You believe she is just like the air around you for the rest of your life. You feel the happiness between you and your lover when you are tolerant to her former shortcomings if she had. You couldn’t sense the joy if you want to enjoy the good time with her but you aren’t able to forget about her bad past. Actually, that fact is that boys have a lot of faults, such as, smoke, fight, go whoring, have no will or courage, etc. A man, don’t always pick on your girl, leave some time for you to review yourself. You are not necessarily better than her, ever you are worse. Many girls have big dreams for their future and they are working on. Sometimes, some professions, even in the same company or work, women are excellent, even surpass men. No matter in political circles or commercial world. There are female big guns out there. I don’t think that what men are doing is a cut above women.

Respect yourself as well as your girl. Love means to take responsibility for the girl you love. The responsibility embodies in life. In the morning, you may get up early and make some cake dessert, oatmeal porridge or mix a glass of milk and something else for her breakfast. When she gets up and catches the sight of the little nice thing. She must be so happy and you too. The joy is not her or yours, it’s common. In the evening when she comes back form the work, give her a smile and you may offer her a hug. You can knead her shoulders so as to make her relax. I think girls come to meet times when they get into trouble, and a smile or a hug may makes her heart bright and hopeful. While, at night, before you fall asleep, tell her that you love her, wish her a sweet dream. Girls are sturdy and brave, but they also need your all kinds of encouragements. Believe your girl, who can do better. Of course, it’s a little hard maybe, but try and do your best. As for me, I’ve said that I’m not a good man, but I’ll do my heart out and go in the right direction.

At last I told my friend, the innocent, the kind girl, the good things, you believe with your conscience, something, somebody is there; you don’t and nothing there.