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安妮宝贝的50句经典语句
2007-10-05 20:07:08
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What do u want in your life ?
2007-10-04 20:41:09
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Returned from Suzhou
2007-09-06 17:42:25
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Words of wisdom for graduates
2007-08-22 11:46:45
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Confusion
2007-08-17 15:45:56
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Reborn
2007-08-10 16:50:05
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How to help a friend in need
2007-08-07 13:46:29
(Oprah.com) -- "If there's anything I can do, just let me know." Surely you've said that to someone going through a rough time -- we all have. It's the sort of well-worn, well-meaning phrase that we utter reflexively before hanging up the phone, anxious to do our friendship duty.
But here's the thing -- most people in the midst of a crisis can't really get it together to tell you exactly what they need.
How, do you best help a friend who is having serious difficulties? How do you open a conversation in a sensitive manner? And what should you avoid saying at all costs? We asked the experts -- and some women who have been there.
How do you help a friend who's seriously ill?
Psychologist Alice Chang, co-author of A Survivor's Guide to Breast Cancer", says that if a friend is ill but mobile, you should take her out to eat every week or two, because sick people are often isolated.
If she's housebound, drop off some food, and bring videos and books on tape, because certain treatments impair vision. "Don't overstay your visit," she says. "Acknowledge the illness and ask what the progress is, and then talk about activities of daily living." If she's a close friend, volunteer to do laundry or clean her house, chores she may be unable to do herself.
And be sensitive to the pendulum swings of her mood. Chang says, "I tell people, 'I know that the feelings are not always rational, because that's how emotions are. But it's okay.'"
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Don't blurt out that she looks awful, but don't tell her she looks great if it's clearly not true. "Hug the person and say, 'Some days are better than others, and I hope you have more better days,'" says Chang. If her appearance has radically changed -- if she's bald from chemo, for instance -- don't pretend you don't notice. "Instead," Chang recommends, "say, 'You have a nicely shaped head' or 'Isn't it a lot cooler?'"
Don't say, "I know how you feel." An epileptic patient once told Chang, "If I've heard it once, I've heard it a thousand times -- 'I had a dog with epilepsy, so I know how you feel.'" The truth is, you don't know how your friend feels, so the best approach is to invite her to tell you.
Want to help a friend who's in an abusive relationship?
Pam Smieja, a public speaker and educator on domestic violence -- and an abuse survivor herself -- says that above all else, it's important to be a stable presence. A friend who is consistent, reliable, and gentle, even down to her tone of voice, is a profound source of comfort for someone dealing with an abuser's volatile moods.
If your friend is open with you about her situation, says Merry Arnold, PsyD, a Boston-area therapist who specializes in trauma including domestic abuse, "you can help her plan an escape by getting spare car keys, duplicate I.D., and a stash of cash that she can keep in her car or at your house -- all things she'll need if he locks her out or she has to leave her house in a hurry."
Call a 24-hour domestic abuse crisis hotline to educate yourself, then give her the number. A hotline can be more helpful than friends or family, says Smieja, because "many volunteers have been abused themselves and understand the fear and pain and chaos." Offer to let her call from your house, where she'll be safer -- and give her privacy while she's on the phone. "She wouldn't want you sitting there listening," Smieja says. "It would be too shameful."
It's better to give your friend the number of a nearby domestic abuse shelter than a spare key to your house, which could jeopardize your own safety. "The address of the safe house is confidential," Smieja says. "A cop once slipped me the name and number of a shelter. I hid that sucker really well, and that's what I used when I left."
If you suspect abuse, don't ask an open-ended question like, "What's going on?" Smieja says. "Because she'll lie. I always lied. Gently touch her arm, look her in the eye, and say, 'If you need me, I'm here for you.' That will open a door. Eye contact is very, very important. If she senses you're uncomfortable, she'll never go to you."
Don't ask why she doesn't just leave. "Living with an abuser is like being in a concentration camp," Smieja says. "There are consequences. My abuser copied my whole address book, waved it in front of me, and said, 'If you leave, somebody will pay.' I knew he was capable of ugly things." Arnold agrees. "The person can leave only when she's ready. Be patient."
If you'd like to help a friend who's in a financial mess, enjoy each other's company on the cheap, says Liz Perle, author of "Money, a Memoir: Women, Emotions, and Cash." "Take a walk. Get your nails done for 10 bucks. And unless it's her birthday, don't treat her -- that will only make her feel less empowered. Money really is power, and you have to be sensitive to that."
"Talking about money is the last taboo," Perle says. "It's like talking to teenagers -- never ask a direct question." Get her to open up by discussing your own financial challenges.
Unless she's a responsible person and faced with an unexpected short-term problem -- say she totaled her car and needs help with the down payment on a new one -- don't loan her money.
"Money problems are often about something else; if you take over, you may be solving the wrong problem," Perle says.
"Offer support emotionally and help her find a financial counselor." Avoid hindsight advice like "You should have bought an apartment," says Shana (not her real name) from Burlington, Vermont, who is coping with financial problems after a job loss. "We all look back and know what we could have done better." E-mail to a friend
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Tired
2007-07-03 16:31:11
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The Daffodils 水仙花
2007-06-28 16:17:12
(1)
I wander'd lonely as a cloud 我像一朵浮云独自漫游
That floats on high o'er vales and hills, 飘过深谷群山，
When all at once I saw a crowd, 突然间，看到一片
A host of golden daffodils, 无数朵的金色水仙花，
Beside the lake, beneath the trees, 长在湖畔，长在树下，
Fluttering and dancing in the breeze. 微风中翩翩起舞。
(2)
Continuous as the stars that shine 不断地像发光的星斗
And twinkle on the milky way, 闪烁在银河中，
They stretch'd in never-ending line 无涯无际地延伸
Along the margin of a bay: 在海湾之滨；
Ten thousand saw I at a glance 一瞥间，我看到成千上万的水仙，
Tossing their heads in sprightly dance. 摇晃着它们的小脑袋快乐地起舞。
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The waves beside them danced, but they 海水在它们的身旁澎湃，
Out-did the sparkling waves in glee:--- 但它们比闪耀的海波更为愉快：－
A poet could not but be gay 诗人不得不由衷欣喜
In such a jocund company! 在这样愉悦的友伴之中！
I gazed --- and gazed --- but little thought 我看了又看－可是很少想到
What wealth the show to me had brought; 这景象带给我多么宝贵的财富；
(4)
For oft, when on my couch I lie 在心境空虚或沉思之际，
In vacant or in pensive mood, 我常仰卧在沙发上，
They flash upon that inward eye 它们掠过我的心灵
Which is the bliss of solitude; 那是我孤寂中的无上喜乐；
And then my heart with pleasure fills, 于是，我心充满喜悦，
And dances with the daffodils. 与水仙共享舞足之乐。
by William Wordsworth
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名言警句-逆境篇
2007-06-28 16:04:15
Adversity reveals genius; fortune conceals it. (Horace, ancient Roman poet)
苦难显才华，好运隐天资。(古罗马诗人 贺拉斯)Almost any situation---good or bad ---is affected by the attitude we bring to. (Lucius Annaus Seneca, Ancient Roman philosopher)
差不多任何一种处境——无论是好是坏——都受到我们对待处境的态度的影响。(古罗马哲学家 西尼加 L A)Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it. (Hellen Keller, American writer)
虽然世界多苦难，但是苦难总是能战胜的(美国作家 海伦·凯勒)As fruit needs not only sunshine but cold nights and chilling showers to ripen it, so character needs not only joy but trial and difficulty to mellow it. (Hugh Black, American writer)
水果不仅需要阳光，也需要凉夜。寒冷的雨水能使其成熟。人的性格陶冶不仅需要欢乐，也需要考验和困难。(美国作家 布莱克 H)Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the freedom to choose his attitude in any given set of circumstances. (Leonhard Frand , German novelist)
我可以拿走人的任何东西，但有一样东西不行，这就是在特定环境下选择自己的生活态度的自由。(德国小说家 弗兰克 L)Every tragedy makes heroes of common people. (Normna Stephens, American writer)
每场悲剧都会在平凡的人中造就出英雄来。(美国作家 斯蒂芬斯 N)He who allows himself to be insulted, deserves to be. (F.C.Comford, British writer)
自己甘愿受辱的人，受污辱也活该。(英国作家 科福德 F C)I find life an exciting business and most exciting when it is lived for others. (Helen Keller,Ameican writer)
我发现生活是令人激动的事情，尤其是为别人活着时。(美国作家 海伦·凯勒)I wept when I was born, and every day shows why.(Jack London, American novelist)
我一生下来就开始哭泣，而每一天都表明我哭泣的原因。(美国小说家 杰克·伦敦)If you want to live your whole life free from pain
如果你想一生摆脱苦难You must become either a god or else a coupes
你就得是神或者是死尸Consider other men's troubles
想想他人的不幸That will comfort yours
你就能坦然面对人生Menander, Ancient Athenian playwriter
古雅典剧作家 米南德In this world there is always danger for those who are afraid of it. (George Bernad Shaw, British dramastist)
对于害怕危险的人，这个世界上总是 危险的。(英国剧作家 肖伯纳 G)It is not true suffering ennobles the character; happiness does that sometimes, but suffering, for the most part, makes men petty and vindictive. (William Somerset Maugham, British novelist)
说苦难能使人格得到升华，这是不确切的；幸福有时倒能做到这一点，而苦难常会使人心胸狭窄，产生复仇的心理。(英国小说家 毛姆 W S)Let us suggest to the person in crisis that he cease concentrating so upon the dangers involved and the difficultie，and concentrate instead upon the opptunity---for there is always opportunity in crisis. (Seebohm Caroline, British physician)
让我们建议处在危机之中的人：不要把精力如此集中地放在所涉入的危险和困难上，相反而要集中在机会上——因为危机中总是存在着机会。(英国医生 卡罗琳 S)Light troubles speak; great troubles keep silent. (Lucius Annaeus Seneneca, Ancient Roman Philosopher)
小困难，大声叫嚷；大困难，闷声不响。(古罗马哲学家 尼加 L A)Mishaps are like knives that either serve us or cut us as we grasp them by the handle or blade.(James Russell Lowell, American poetess and critic)
灾难就像刀子，握住刀柄就可以为我们服务，拿住刀刃则会割破手。(美国女诗人、批评家 洛威尔 J R)No one can degrade us except ourselves; that if we are worthy, no influence can defeat us. (B.T.Washington, American educator)
除了我们自己以外，没有人能贬低我们。如果我们坚强，就没有什么不良影响能够打败我们。(美国教育家 华盛顿 B T)No pain , no palm; no thorns , no throne ; no gall, no glory; no cross, no crown. (William Penn, British admiral)
没有播种，何来收获；没有辛劳，何来成功；没有磨难，何来荣耀；没有挫折，何来辉煌。(英国海军上将 佩恩 W)Optimists always picture themselves accomplishing their goals. (Lucius Anaeus Seneca, Ancient Roman philosopher)
乐观主义者总是想象自己实现了目标的情景。(古罗马哲学家 西尼加 L A)Perhaps you can't control your job, but you may be able to make other changes in your life. (Alan Loy Mcginnis ,British writer)
或许你不能支配自己的工作，但你能够使生活发生转变。(英国作家 麦金尼斯 A L)Prosperity doth best discover vice, but adversity doth discover virtue.
顺境时显现恶习，逆境时凸现美德Rejoicing in hope, patient in tribulation. (John Kennedy, American president)
从希望中得到欢乐，在苦难中保持坚韧。(美国总统 肯尼迪 J)Sweet are the uses of adversity.(William Shakspeare,British Playwriter)
苦尽甘来。(英国剧作家 莎士比亚 W)The chinese word for crisis is divided into two characters, one meaning danger and the other meaning opportunity. (Burejer, British writer)
中文的“危机”分为两个字，一个意味着危险，另外一个意味着机会。(英国作家 布瑞杰)The misfortunes hardest to bear are those which never come.(James Russell Lowell, American Poetess and critic)
最难忍受的不幸是那些从未来临的不幸。(美国女诗人、评论家 洛威尔 J R)The more you fight something, the more anxious you become ---the more you're involved in a bad pattern, the more difficult it is to escape. (Seebohm Caroline, British Physician)
你越是为了解决问题而拼斗，你就越变得急躁——在错误的思路中陷得越深，也越难摆脱痛苦。(英国医生 卡罗琳 S)The tragedy of life is not so much what men suffer, but what they miss. (Thomas Carlyle, British essayist and historian)
生活的悲剧不在于人们受到多少苦，而在于人们错过了什么。(英国散文家、历史学家 卡莱尔 T)The very remembrance of my former misfortune proves a new one to me. (Miguel de Cervantes, Spanish writer)
对于过去不幸的记忆，构成了新不幸。(西班牙作家 塞万提斯 M)Tough--minded optimists approach problems with a can-do philosophy and emerge stronger from tragedies. (Lucius Annaeus Seneca, Ancient Roman Philosopher)
意志坚强的乐观主义者用“世上无难事”人生观来思考问题，越是遭受悲剧打击，越是表现得坚强。(古罗马哲学家 西尼加 L A)Trouble is only opportunity in work clothes.(H.J.Kaier, American businessman)
困难只是穿上工作服的机遇。(美国实业家 凯泽 H J)We have all sufficient strength to endure the misfortunes of others. (La Rochefoucauld, French writer)
我们都有足够的力量来忍受别人的不幸。(法国作家 拉罗什富科)We shall defend ourselves to the last breath of man and beast. (William II, King of England)
只要一息尚存，我们就要为保卫自己而战。(英国皇帝 威廉二世) -
I Remember, I Remember
2007-06-28 15:54:39
(1)
I remember, I remember 我忆起，我忆起
The house where I was born, 那栋出生时的屋宇，
the little window where the sun 早晨，阳光从小窗中
Came peeping in at morn: 偷望进去：
He never came a wink too soon, 他从不早来片刻，
Nor brought too long a day, 也不多留半晌，
But now, I often wish the night 但是现在，我常愿夜晚
Had borne my breath away! 带走我的呼吸！
(2)
I remember, I remember 我忆起，我忆起
The roses, red and white, 玫瑰花开，有红有白
The vi'lets, and the lily-cups, 紫罗兰，百合
Those flowers made of light! 那些由光辉构成的花朵！
The lilacs where the robin built, 有知更鸟筑巢的紫丁香，
And where my brother set 有哥哥生日时
The laburnum on his birthday,-- 种植的金炼花，－－
The tree is living yet! 依然常青！
(3)
I remember, I remember 我忆起，我忆起
Where I was used to swing 经常荡秋千的地方
and thought the air must rush as fresh 迎面而来的风是如此清爽
To swallows on the wing; 飞燕也颇有同感；
My spirit flew in feathers then, 昔日意气扬扬的心灵，
That is so heavy now, 现在变得如此沉重，
And summer pools could hardly cool 就是夏日的池水也无法冷却
The fever on my brow! 我额头的热狂！
(4)
I remember, I remember 我忆起，我忆起
The fir trees dark and high; 茂密高耸的冷杉；
I used to think their slender tops 我曾想象它细长的枝尖
Were close against the sky; 逼近天空；
It was a childish ignorance, 虽然只是幼稚无知，
But now 'tis little joy 但是，现在却少有那般快乐
To know I'm farther off from heav'n 因为我知道自己比孩童时代
Than when I was a boy! 离苍穹更遥远了！
by Thomas Hood, 1799-1845
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Joke
2007-06-28 12:51:31
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Share photos taken in Yandang Mountain
2007-06-20 21:37:55
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惑 。。。
2007-06-13 14:43:03
[交流]
她总是提出问题
他总是回答
他回答的从不是她提出的问题
她提出的问题其实也根本无需回答[重逢]
在一个阳光明媚的早上
她在公车站台偶遇曾深深爱恋的他
这感觉就像突然找到一张早已忘记密码的信用卡
那些零碎的余额虽然还在，但是得不到已经无妨[三十岁]
他吹灭了三十岁的生日蜡烛，并顺便许下三个愿望
不要动感情
不要发脾气
不要那些不是自己真正想要的东西[末日]
每个周末，他和朋友聚餐
每个月末，他领取工资单
每年的最后一天，他和恋人迎接新年
唯独对自己生命的末日，他还没有把握[莫名]
他养了很多花花草草，但叫不出它们的名字
她爱上过形形色色的男人，但记不住他们的名字
他和很多人一起工作了很久，但仍然叫不出他们的名字
她给自己起过很多很多的名字，最后竟然忘记了自己的名字假象]
清晨起床，他发现天异常的蓝
云异常的白
街道异常的安静
既然看起来还像在梦里，他又放心地去睡了[灵感]
面对空白的Word文件，他觉得他实在没有灵感
于是他决定把“没有灵感”如实写下来
通读一遍后他甚是满意
评论家们也都称赞此文颇具灵感
[觉悟]
她努力地跑了好久，却依然在原地
因为她在健身会所的跑步机上
她突然觉悟她的生活其实就是如此
可是她舍不得4600块的年费，所以还是迟迟不肯下来[死]
他做了一个梦
梦中他在做另一个梦
他很努力，才从第二个梦中醒来
可他实在没有力气再醒一次[新生]
小时候他喜欢搭积木再把它们推倒
后来他成了个副市长专门负责旧城改造
退休后不甘寂寞开始翻拍经典老电影
最近他在考虑适时自杀以获新生[后悔]
凡事他都深思熟虑
以免日后后悔
五十年后年华老去
他突然对没有做什么可以后悔的事后悔不已[错过]
今天天特别蓝
他看得入神跌了一跤
旁人只顾了看他头上的疱
白白错过了那么蓝的天[弹性]
早上他多睡了十分钟
正好可以享受飙车去公司的快感
偏偏一连遇上四个红灯
正好停下来想想人生的意义[幸福]
清晨醒来，他突然发觉不再爱她
可是思来想去实在找不到合适的理由
碰巧那天，她亦发觉不再爱他
然而他们谁都没说，继续幸福地生活在一起[移情]
听见悲伤的歌曲就胃口大开
闻见饭菜的香味就想做爱
春心荡漾时去疯狂购物
心情烦躁时去烧狮子头冬至]
夜重重地跌了一跤
花了大半天的工夫才勉强爬了起来
恍惚中它记得似乎在梦中听说
这是一年里黑暗最长的日子[拥抱]
他左手冰冷
他右手火热
他不知该用哪只手与她相握
于是他选择了拥抱[遗忘]
他将琐事分门别类地记进文件
他将文件分门别类地归入档案
他将档案分门别类地锁进大橱
他丢了大橱的钥匙[自大]
洗完澡他发现自己伤痕累累
朵朵乌青一律的来历不明
他怀疑是世界太小让他处处碰壁
偶尔他也会怪罪于过大的自己[被迫]
他说了很多谎
人们渐渐不再相信他
于是为了好好地说一次实话
他不得不再说一次谎[因果]
她很高所以她干脆穿了一双高跟鞋
她企图让人们相信她是因着这高跟鞋才显得如此之高
他头发很少所以他极少戴帽
他要避开故意掩饰自己缺陷的嫌疑[别处]
说中文时他从不讲任何粗话脏话
但用英语骂起人来他却很流利
她喜欢讲一口爽朗国语的北方男人
但论及婚姻她决意只嫁给上海人[执着]
他16岁时爱上了一个22岁的女老师
他22岁时爱上了个22岁的女同学
他32岁时爱上了个22岁的女下属
他40岁的时候，终于，娶了个22岁的太太[追逐]
他步行的时候，她已有了单车
他买了单车的时候，她已升级到山地车
他买好山地车的时候，她已开起了POLO
他的POLO堵在街头的时候，她正悠闲地步行经过[邻居]
邻居的狗已能识别他的气味
他却依旧叫不出邻居的姓名
只是在偶尔看见邻居门口的垃圾袋时
他才感觉他们的生活很像 -
A trip to Yiwu
2007-06-11 22:06:22
So tired after returned from the small business trip .
I went to Yiwu Zhejiang this Saturday because one of my friends want me to check and send out the goods for him .Feel dull with the simple, tedious work, so I complied with him immediately and somewhat exciting inside me .ha
Things didn't work out smoothly .I got up at 5 Am expecting to buy the Dongche train ticket, but tickets were all sold out when we got the train station, so we bought non-seat tickets of next the train .It would be a terrible trip standing 3 hours on train, but unfortunately that's just our fate.
Beautiful scenery slid by out of the window as we neared Yiwu .It seems not a big deal for the 3 hours' standing as my friend and I talked too much .Finally, we arrived at Yiwu station, small but modern, which is around by green mountains, so different from other crowded stations.
We took a taxi to the Yiwu International Commercial City directly ,green grass lawn and colorful flowers with both sides of the road ,which is really a pleasant scene for guests .Yiwu is known as: the home of small commodity in China, which is for sure come up with the so called name ,lots of Chinese and foreign buyers do business here .We got astonished by the too many private cars parked out of the commercial city .Enter into the jewellery city ,various kinds of fashion decorations occupied your eyes .We found the stall that selling necklace to my friend .The couples pulled out all of the necklaces for us to check the quantify and quality ,actually I am a out of layer about this, only knowing how to count ....Done with the checking ,we called the express delivery company to send out our goods .Doing business needs quick minds and careful action .I think I am lacking of both ..hehe
We went around and brought some bracelets for friends .It is cheap indeed, and you would be regret to death if you know the price here .We were about to see more, but pains was felt with the feet, having to rest for a while ...We ate lunch outside and sat there for a long time.
Too hot outside, we got no mood to look around, so backed to the station .Sitting on the round stone waiting for the train, so agreeable to see the green mountains around .There were more than 10 planes flew over the sky within a short time, which could be a wealthy proof for the small city.
Reached home at night about 11 pm, oh, so sleepy and tired....
Today I wrote down the small trip and left as a permanent memory.
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Long lost pen pal
2007-06-06 17:23:22
Time flies!
We have known each other almost 3 years and I was still a college student when we met frist time on net .Many funny and sweet memories coming back to me instantly when I recall all of these .Losting contact for a long time ,but today is a lucky day that Andy popped out when I am online .After the dear greetings ,he told me a story of another gril .I got a big surprise when heard of this .
Yes , I know that the gril is just like me that working in Sh and known Andy well .But about the recent half years ,her parents get divorced and her mother tried many times to kill herself with sleeping pills ,and finally she died in the basement of her building .Now ,mother died and father far away from her , I couldn't imagine how much she suffered to bear all of these ,which comes too fast and suddently .I should have complained my boring life to Andy ,but when I heard of the gril's sufferring , got a stuck in my heart ,what to say?
在我们成长的道路上，总要经历一些意外的伤害，痛苦，彷徨，迷惑。所有这些也许有时真的难以承受，但是亲爱的朋友，相信自己，风雨过后就是彩虹。度过这一关，我们会变得更坚强，勇敢！
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Random writing
2007-06-03 14:17:19
Come again the weekends.
It was cloudy the morning and began to rain late evening.,
Coming back from the company, I found nobody at home, so opened my laptop thinking to write something, but actually I know no big stuff that worthy to write down.
Hmm, maybe I could release out my sad thoughts here …..555
We have planned to take a trip to West Lake in Hangzhou for a long time, but failed everyday time because of varies sick reasons. The small trip looks like a goal for my current life and I am longing for that deadly. Not happy and feel stress for both my life and work , I lost the direction toward them ,lingering without clear aim for present .It is not right ,but hard feeling inside me ,I feel depressed much and in fear of thinking the future. In the mean time, killing time by browsing online and watching TV increased my pain also .Definitely I should make a schedule for my life and put it into practice.
Forgot the past, keep moving on, be strong.
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比尔盖茨的11条人生箴言
2007-06-01 13:48:37
In Bill Gates" Book for high school and college graduates, there is a list of 11 things they did not learn in school. In his book, Bill Gates talks about how feelgood, politically-correct teachings created a full generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this education set them up for failure in the real world.
在比尔-盖茨写给高中毕业生和大学毕业生的书里，有一个单子上面列有11项学生没能在学校里学到的事情。比尔-盖茨在书中谈到让你感觉良好的"政治上正确"的教导培养出一整代不知现实为何物的年轻人，这种教育只能导致他们成为现实世界中的失败者。
The 11 things are:
这11项事情是：
Life is not fair, get used to it.
生活是不公平的；要去适应它。
The world won"t care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something before you feel good about yourself.
这世界并不会在意你的自尊。这世界指望你在自我感觉良好之前先要有所成就。
You will not make 40 thousand dollars a year right out of high school. You won"t be a vice president with a car phone, until you earn both.
高中刚毕业你不会一年挣4万美元。你不会成为一个公司的副总裁，并拥有一部装有电话的汽车，直到你将此职位和汽车电话都挣到手。
If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss. He doesn"t have tenure.
如果你认为你的老师严厉，等你有了老板再这样想。老板可是没有任期限制的。
Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your grandparents had a different word for burger flipping; they called it opportunity.
烙牛肉饼并不有损你的尊严。你的祖父母对烙牛肉饼可有不同的定义；他们称它为机遇。
If you mess up, it"s not your parents" fault, so don"t whine about our mistakes, learn from them.
如果你陷入困境，那不是你父母的过错，所以不要尖声抱怨我们的错误，要从中吸取教训。
Before you were born, your parents weren"t as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you are. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parents" generation, try "delousing" the closet in your own room.
在你出生之前，你的父母并非像他们现在这样乏味。他们变成今天这个样子是因为这些年来他们一直在为你付账单，给你洗衣服，听你大谈你是如何的酷。所以，如果你想消灭你父母那一辈中的"寄生虫"来拯救雨林的话，还是先去清除你房间衣柜里的虫子吧。
Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life has not. In some schools they have abolished failing grades; they"ll give you as many times as you want to get the right answer. This doesn"t bear the slightest resemblance to anything in real life.
你的学校也许已经不再分优等生和劣等生，但生活却仍在作出类似区分。在某些学校已经废除不及格分；只要你想找到正确答案，学校就会给你无数的机会。这和现实生活中的任何事情没有一点相似之处。
Life is not divided into semesters. You don"t get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you find yourself. Do that on your own time.
生活不分学期。你并没有暑假可以休息，也没有几位雇主乐于帮你发现自我。自己找时间做吧。
Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
电视并不是真实的生活。在现实生活中，人们实际上得离开咖啡屋去干自己的工作。
Be nice to nerds. Chances are you"ll end up working for one.
善待乏味的人。有可能到头来你会为一个乏味的人工作。
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Forever - Stratovarius
2007-05-31 15:00:09
Picked up this song from Oumei music forum ,very beautiful FLASH there, but it is a pity that I don't know how to move it to my blog ....
Please check URL below to enjoy it ;
http://www.oumei.net/ombbs/Disbbs.Asp?CateID=1&SubCateID=1&ID=1499
Stratovarius成立于1984年，由三个来自芬兰、赫尔辛基的三个年轻人组成，他们分别是鼓手兼主唱Tuomo Lassila，贝斯手John Vihervaauml以及吉他手Staffan Straaringahlman。在他们正式取名为Stratovarius之前这三人以Black Water的名字对外演出。
Stratovarius早期的音乐与如今差别甚大，在那个时候乐队深受Black Sabbath和Ozzy Osbourne的影响，而吉他手Staffan为乐队引进了古典音乐元素。随后贝斯手John在84年年底离开乐队为Jyrki Lentonen所取代，Jyrki先前与Timo Tolkki一起在一个名为Road Block的乐队表演。
Forever
I stand alone in the darkness .............. 独自伫立在凄冷的夜
The winter of my life came so fast ......... 生命的寒冬铺天盖地的来
Memories go back to childhood .............. 童年的回忆充满馨香
to days I still recall ..................... 至今让我难忘怀
Oh how happy I was then ? .................. 噢!那时我是多么欢快！
There was no sorrow there was no pain....... 没有痛苦 没有哀愁
Walking through the green fields ........... 漫步在葱绿无垠的田头
Sunshine in my eyes ........................ 阳光如金跃入眼眸
I’m still there everywhere ................ 无论身在何方 我心永在记忆的深秋
I’m the dust in the wind .................. 我是风中一粒尘
I’m the star in the northern sky .......... 我是北天一颗星
I never stayed anywhere .................... 天涯海角无处停留
I’m the wind in the trees ................. 我只是穿越树叶一缕风
Would you wait for me forever? ............. 你是否会在孤寂的街口等我?
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老公的礼物
2007-05-30 22:48:57
Copy from William Zhu's Blog .
There is a kind of love that beyond words ...
去年１２月份我在南加州海边的一家咖啡厅里见了一位专程从加拿大赶来相聚的朋友。她叫Rebecca，和我同岁，刚刚失去了丈夫，正沉浸在无边的痛苦中。
Rebecca每要一杯咖啡便一饮而尽，喝完后就开始叙叨关于她先生的诸多生前琐事，然后再要一杯咖啡，周而复始。我们从日照当头坐到了斜阳西下，就这样喝了十余杯咖啡，而我却几乎说不上什么，只能做她的忠实听众。
Rebecca是东北人，２０００年刚来上海便幸运的找到了一家外资企业的工作。她工作很卖力，没有用多久时间就从前台接待转到了行政部担任主管的职务。那年过春节前她四处托人买回家的火车票，无奈春运其间一票难求，只好放弃回家与亲人团聚的打算。
小年夜那天家住外地的同事已经纷纷请假回离去，而Rebecca却一直到晚上九点钟还没有离开公司。
Rebecca公司的老板叫Roger，他是加拿大籍华裔，服务外商投资企业多年，时任那家企业的总经理。Roger在下班经过Rebecca的座位时问她为什么不回家过年，Rebecca回答说因为买不到火车票。
按照以往惯例，公司在大年夜那天中午便开始放假。Rebecca一早到办公室便看到她的办公桌上有一个写着她名字的信封，打开来里面是一张当天下午由上海至哈尔滨的往返机票。信封里面没有姓名和留言。Rebecca询问前台小姐，得到的答复是一家票务公司送的票。Rebecca随即打电话到票务公司查询，一番周折后一名负责人在电话那头告诉她机票是一位自称是她的朋友送的，其它一概不知。
Rebecca在记忆中搜索所有可能送她机票的朋友。她当时到上海未满一年，虽然有一些朋友，但是她费劲脑筋也想不出有谁会送她一张往返哈尔滨的机票。
她随即联想到公司的总经理Roger。但是又马上打消了念头，她与Roger平时除去工作外没有任何交往，而纵使在工作中的沟通也只限于流程签署和报告提交，通常只用几分钟便得以解决。
Rebecca当时也曾经想到会不会是公司总经理在暗示什么。她当年三十不到，可总经理年龄看上去已经快要四十了，Rebecca虽然说不上是美丽出众，可也不乏众多追求者。她不想跟一个比自己大十岁，而且还是自己上司的男人有任何牵扯。Rebecca鼓足勇气，敲开了总经理办公室的门，开门见山的问Roger机票是不是他买的。Roger当即否认，结果反而弄的Rebecca一脸尴尬地站在那里。后来，Roger打了圆场说，既然有机票就别管是谁送的，让她先回家好好过年，并且建议Rebecca尽快下班去收拾行李。
那是Rebecca第一次乘坐飞机，一直到飞机落地她还在努力思索是谁送给她的机票。
Roger后来去了一家规模更大的跨国公司担任中国区总裁，而Rebecca也在几个月的询问和试探后最终放弃了寻找谁是送她那张机票的朋友。
２００２年，在经历了此生第一次迅速开始，又迅速结束的恋情后，Rebecca在一个新闻发布会上碰到了以VIP身份出席的Roger。他在发布会结束后主动上前与她握手，并递上了一张名片，说如果有机会想请她喝杯咖啡。
Rebecca刚刚经历了一次令她痛心的感情，当时无意再去涉及他人。半年后，她在一个节日中群发了一条短信，收到了Roger的回复：别忘记我们还有一杯咖啡。
后来，那杯咖啡让他们走上了红地毯。婚礼在上海、哈尔滨，以及多伦多三地举办了三场。Rebecca如愿以偿的披上了她在第一段感情时就渴望的婚纱。
婚后他们把家安在了上海，夫妻感情非常和睦。Rebecca依旧在她以前的公司，而Roger的事业也一帆风顺，他们打算在两年后添一个宝宝。当然，Rebecca仍然没有忘记问她老公当年那张机票的事情，而得到的答复却和以前一模一样。
２００６年夏天，Roger在一次例行体检中被发现肠道有问题，后来确诊为肠道癌晚期。２００６年秋天，Roger在加拿大多伦多的一家医院与世长辞。
Rebecca在整理她先生的遗物时，在一个旧纸箱的角落里意外的发现了那张写着日期和航班的机票确认单，她顿时泪如泉涌，让她百思不得其解的是，为什么Roger在婚前以及婚后，甚至包括临终前交代各种事情的时候都没有透露出这个困扰着她六年多的秘密。
Rebecca在加拿大料理完她先生的所有事情后，打电话给我让我帮助她寻找答案。我本人也见过Roger几次，他给我的印象始终是一名绅士。Roger在吃饭的时候他从来没有忘记给Rebecca夹菜，每次进出和上车前总是彬彬有礼的先为Rebecca开门。Roger不像是一个健忘的人，更何况送给了已经成为妻子的一张机票也没有什么说不出口的。我当时也没有找到恰当的答案。
Rebecca继承了她先生的遗产，在加拿大成立了一个专项帮助肠道癌症患者的基金，并且决定将于今年晚些时候回到上海。前两天她突然一清早打电话给我，睡的迷迷糊糊的我听着她在电话那头先哽咽了一会儿。然后，她收拾起悲伤告诉我她终于找到了答案。
她翻出了婚后第一个情人节Roger送给她的一张卡片。卡片中用英文写了短短两行字：
To my dearest wife and best friend
Love forever, friends forever
（给我最挚爱的妻子和最好的朋友）
（爱情万岁，友谊万岁。）爱情万岁，友谊万岁。在这个浑浑噩噩的年代，爱情和友谊正在被彼此背叛和相互利用所替代。朋友之间、同事之间、恋人之间、夫妻之间，还有多少人拥有真正的友谊？
我们的经济飞速发展，伦理道德却正在背道而驰。这是一个流行着聚散无常，劳燕分飞的时代；这是一个原则沦陷、信任灭亡、友情崩溃、婚姻瓦解的时代，在这个时代有谁还将爱情和友谊相提并论，有谁还会将两者合二为一？
当然，真正的答案只有Roger自己知道，但我猜想，他或许是在临终前有太多的嘱咐，所以忘记了这张机票。又或许，他之所以保守这个秘密，是因为他想以他的方式告诉Rebecca：就算命运使然他要先行离去，她接下去的生活也不会孤独。不做条件交换的友谊，没有利益支撑的朋友，永远都在她的左右。
浩浩尘世，漫漫人生，Rebecca还有很长的路要走。但我相信，她老公送给她的这张机票足够她享用一生。这张机票不仅会温暖着她，还将陪伴她度过孤独的岁月，鼓励她积极面对生活，选择属于自己的人生道路。
相比那些可观的遗产，这张机票才是Rebecca所得到的最珍贵的礼物。
總在快樂的時候,感到微微的惶恐
在開懷大笑時,流下感動的淚水
我無法相信單純的幸福
對人生的起伏悲喜,既坦然又不安
