learn doesn't end

i start practising my tone to be tender  so as to be a fond mother.what i need to learn isn't only so.why can't shut down the fireburning earlier?what 's the best way to rebuild  the harmony with my kid when he got furious.why so many kids wouldn't like to communicate with mothers when they became children?i nearly reflect on the complexity of the children-education over night.it's a great problem to confront.