The diaries for myself,who is a small woman with many small secrets and a big-heart.

the manner expected in others' eyes.

2008-03-20 19:42:27 / 个人分类：My life

I always reflect on how to educate a kid,it is also a widespread headachy problem to all of parents in current years.Of course,some of the kids are original good in manner since birth,which we call natural.But there is no parent don't want their kids to be better?

It's good that my son always listen to me and have a good temper.Nevertheless,I know such a kid surely has his weak points.But I think a kid grows up from listening to mother is not a wrong thing.These two years,I am always in content on my son compared to other colleagues who have been parents around me.

As it should be that my son and I have some similar points at many parts of character and the ways of doing things.As it was said that sons are always handed down from mothers most.

I always wonder whether I should praise my son too often?Indeed,I did so every day.Some are because of his good behavīor and the love to him,and some are for encouraging him more and to make him happy.I know doing these can help him form more confidence and the sense of content.But whether will it bring some down side effections if I overdo it?

I will usually think everything happening to myself if I come across the same thing.I also have a contented childhood because of winning much praises.It is certain that I obtained much enjoyment from it.And then,I tried my best to get more praises from others for enjoyment.Some of the things were not my unwillingness sometimes,but I still did them,because I already couldn't suffer any criticises or any bad comments at all.

Until now,I still eager others to give beautiful comments on me,I know that's impossible to have all others' appreciation.Yeah,it is really hard and upset to accept some absent treatments for me,It seems to be hurt in my confidence and become more passive.Those are caused by always listening to praise words before,so how to face the converse is difficult.However,to keep doing most of things suitable to others is also hard and I feel bored and tired.So I decided to be a person who won't care about others' thinkings too much.These two years,I did so and feel better to accept anything unwilling to hear and feel.Yeah,to have a usual mind-set.

I think of this,so I decide to let my son to adapt himself to any situation in the future.I should criticize him at fit items.I won't suppose any steady aspect for him.Let him be his willing one.

The manner in others' eyes is not very important at all,the more important is to be ourselves in the living and form our own measure standard. Everything is so, when a thing reaches its extreme, it reverses its course.
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Alice 删除 lovealicebaby 发布于2008-03-21 12:48:00
haha...walking my way do my buessiness...
Alice 删除 lovealicebaby 发布于2008-03-21 12:47:18
i don't know how to educate a good manner to kid, coz without experience..=_=!

We don't become a perfectionist in the world, none can win that. we only say i could do my best to do that.

and i think don't need to care someone's eyes or you should be tired much.

Walking my home, do my thing!
删除 yanwei_1982 发布于2008-03-20 23:25:58
i can't understand what you write.
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