family violence~~so terrible!

it happaned at about half past one o'clock in the evening. i was awakened by a screem 'help'. recognizing it is from the window of neighberhood, i was reaaly scared by the scream, like awakened from a nighmare. my heart beat quickly. at that moment, my roomate was awakened too. we all very nervous. the women , our neighber, cried and shouted 'help'. we dont know what happened and we heard some noises of knocking. i want to call 110, worrying about something wrong with the women. but my roomate stop me. she said:"maybe the women is too depressed so that she want to take out. it could be ok later.it is too late to call the 110." but, a few minites later, the women screamed again and shout 'help''help'repeatedly. my roomate and i are frightened by that. we dont know what to do. what the hell happened? we saw lights in the opposite building turned on. there must be some others who awakened by the scream. and we also hear some people talked. it seemed that they are complainning about the noise. some minites later, it became silent. but i cant sleep any longer. i am afraid that the woman would scream again. the scream haunted me. as i close my eye, it reechoed in my ears. i worried about the women. what's wrong with her. i am not sure if somebody call 110. for the whole night, i wake up and sleep, then wake up again.

early in the morning, some people came to their home. they are complaining the noises in the night. i guess they are from committee of the courtyard. and i know the reason why the women screamed. she quarrelled with her husband and suffered from phyisical abuse. it is so terrible.

to be frankly , i have heard some cases of family violence, however, i have never expected it happened around me. the 'help'from the woman is the most deplorable scream i have heard. till the midday, they quarralled all the time. as i lived here for a short time, i have never seen them although they are my neighbors. when it really happen around me , i felt it is so terrible. i even thought that i dare not to marry. why, whey they dont fanalized their marriage if they dont love each other and keep this terrible marriage mode. and i also wondered why there is no people to pursuade them, to prevent them. maybe the greatest challenges facing the domestic violence movement is the widespread perception that spousal abuse is a “private matter”.

nowadays, we often hear some cases about domestic violence. the televison series "dont talk to strangers" is a typical example. it is said nearly one-third of women reort being physically or sexually abused by a husband or boyfriend at some point in their lives .even though it is more and mroe common in our society, it seems that people havent a clear conciousness of it. domestic violence victims in China rarely have stepped into the civil arena, for a variety of reasons, including reluctance to tangle with the legal system , difficulty in finding a lawyer willing to take the case and inability to get money from a batterer even if they win. some woman , who are in or who have been in physical, emotionally, or verbally abusive relationships fear of being attacked or even killed by their husband. some women may be that a victim is not able to support herself and children without husband's incom or have limited access to government assistance, or dread welfare ....too many reasons prevent them from resisting or departing from their husband.

this matter really stired up my feeling. i dont know if they will quarrel this afternoon, or in this evening. and also, i feel also sorry that i cant help.