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To Read When You’re Alone
2008-10-08 21:10:41
To Read When You're Alone
By Mike Staver
I was 13 years old. My family had moved to Southern California from North Florida a year before. I hit adolescence with a vengeance. I was angry and rebellious, with little regard for anything my parents had to say, particularly if it had to do with me. Like so many teenagers, I struggled to escape from anything that didn't agree with my picture of the world. A "brilliant without need of guidance" kid, I rejected any overt offering of love. In fact, I got angry at the mention of the word love.
One night, after a particularly difficult day, I stormed into my room, shut the door and got into bed. As I lay down in the privacy of my bed, my hands slipped under my pillow. There was an envelope. I pulled it out and on the envelope it said, "To read when you're alone."
Since I was alone, no one would know whether I read it or not, so I opened it. It said "Mike, I know life is hard right now, I know you are frustrated and I know we don't do everything right. I also know that I love you completely and nothing you do or say will ever change that. I am here for you if you ever need to talk, and if you don't, that's okay. Just know that no matter where you go or what you do in your life, I will always love you and be proud that you are my son. I'm here for you and I love you - that will never change. Love, Mom.
That was the first of several "To read when you're alone" letters. They were never mentioned until I was an adult.
Today I travel the world helping people. I was in Sarasota, Florida, teaching a seminar when, at the end of the day, a lady came up to me and shared the difficulty she was having with her son. We walked out to the beach, and I told her of my mom's undying love and about the "To read when you're alone" letters. Several weeks later, I got a card that said she had written her first letter and left it for her son.
That night as I went to bed, I put my hands under my pillow and remembered the relief I felt every time I got a letter. In the midst of my turbulent teen years, the letters were the calm assurance that I could be loved in spite of me, not because of me. Just before I fell asleep I thanked God that my mom knew what I, an angry teenager, needed. Today when the seas of life get stormy, I know that just under my pillow there is that calm assurance that love - consistent, abiding, unconditional love - changes lives.
那一年，我13岁。我们家刚从北佛罗里达搬到南加利福尼亚。那时候，我是以一种报复的心理对待青春期的。我的性格很暴躁很反叛，对父母所说的每一件事都持一种逆反的态度，一点也不尊重他们，尤其是当我不得不照他们的意思去做的时候。像其他许多十几岁的青少年一样，我挣扎着奋斗着，极力摆脱那些与我理想中的世界有冲突的事情。我认为自己是个“无需指点的才华横溢的才子”，拒绝任何爱的关怀。实际上，我对即使是只提到“爱”这个字也感到很愤怒。
一天晚上，在经历了一个特别难熬的白天之后，我怒气冲冲地跑回房间，狠狠地摔上房门，倒在床上。当我的手指滑到枕头下面，那儿有一个信封。我把它拉出来，看到信封上写着，“当你孤独的时候，读一读它”。
既然我是独自一人，那么反正不会有人知道我是否读过它，于是我就打开它。只见上面写着，“迈克，我知道你的生活现在很艰难，我知道你很失落，我知道我们做的事都不合你的心意。我也知道我全心全意地爱你，不管你做什么或者说什么，都不会改变这一点。如果你需要和人交谈，我会随时奉陪；如果你不想，也没关系。我只是希望你能知道，不管你去哪里，不管你做什么，在你的一生中，我永远爱你，永远以你是我的儿子感到骄傲。我会永远站在你的背后支持你，我会永远爱你，这一点永远不会改变。爱你的，妈妈”。
那是“当你孤独的时候读一读”的信中的第一封。在我成年之前，他们从没有在我面前提起过这些信。
成年后，我曾经在佛罗里达州的萨拉索塔主持过一个课堂讨论会。那天快结束的时候，一位女士走到我身边，把她和儿子之间的隔阂告诉了我。我们一块来到沙滩上，我把我妈妈及她那些“当你孤独的时候读一读”的信的事情告诉了她。几个星期后，我收到她寄来的一张卡片，上面说她已经给儿子写了第一封信，儿子很感动。
那天晚上，当我上床睡觉的时候，我把手伸到我的枕头底下，回忆以前每次摸到信的时候感到的安慰。
在我十七八岁的时候，我知道我之所以被爱不是因为我杰出，而是因为我是妈妈的儿子！那些信就是最可靠的保证。在我入睡之前，我为我的妈妈知道什么是我——一个十几岁的、叛逆的孩子所需要的理解而心存感激。
不论生命之海遭遇什么样的风暴，我知道我的枕头底下有世上最坚固、最持久、最无条件的爱，这是我改变命运的可靠保证。 -
因为爱过，所以不会成敌人；因为伤过，所以不会做朋友
2008-08-30 19:31:14
如果，前世的五百次回眸才换来今生的擦肩而过，那想来已经很幸福了――其实，擦肩而过，也是一种很深的缘分。佛说：五百次的回眸才能换来今生的擦肩而过。可以一秒钟遇到一个人，一分钟认识一个人，一个小时喜欢上一个人，一天时间爱上一个人，但是却要用一辈子去忘记一个人。
当她不爱你的时候，无论过去她是否爱过还是后来忘了，又或者是从未爱过，当你无法再成为她心里的那个人的时候，她的心便不会记得你。请不要在你不开心时去打搅她，她那儿绝对不是你此刻应该的去处。请不要与她讲你的琐事，她无暇更是没有兴趣去了解你、你的生活。即使讲了，她也很快会忘记的。没有爱，你注定挤不进她的生命。请不要在她的面前流眼泪，她无法给予你照顾和关心，至多只是一点同情。只有爱你的人，才会真正的去珍惜你，而不是，旁观的同情和怜悯。
当她不爱你的时候，你的爱便是她的负担。请不要去计算自己的付出，不要希望有什么回报。你用心，她无心，爱着不爱自己的人，本身便是没有回报的。不要计较对与错，这样会快乐些。请不要失去自信，因为爱一个人，并非她的优秀，而只是一种感觉。她让你有这样的感觉，于是你爱她。同样，她不爱你，也并非你不优秀。优秀，不是爱的理由。还有那么多爱自己的人，淡淡地微笑一下，也是异样甜美的。
当她不爱你的时候，也一定要祝福她。有了爱，便不该有恨，因为曾经有爱，有爱的日子里是快乐的，有缘在一起也是快乐，有过快乐有过爱，就不会再有恨。她失去的是一个爱她的人，而你失去了一个不爱你的人，却得到了一个重新生活、重新去爱的机会。请你深深呼吸，一生的路上，铺满了爱的花蕾，总有那么一朵属于你，花儿虽多，却没有重复的一朵，这是生生世世早已经注定的。
当她不爱你的时候，就是你从他生活中消失的时候，第一时间离开她，骄傲地过属于自己的生活。同时，你也希望她能幸福快乐，找到属于她的未来。轻轻拥抱一下回忆里的温暖，轻柔地凝视凋谢的温柔。无论结果怎样都会破坏了曾经的美感。干干净净地离开，也许若干年后的某个午后，阳光下的她眯起双眼会记起某个美好的瞬间，会心一笑。种种怀念，值了。
爱不一定要永远。曾经拥有的也许会是你一生最美好的回忆。因为爱过，所以不会成敌人；因为伤过，所以不会做朋友；只能是最熟悉的陌生人。爱过知情重，醉过知酒浓。关于爱的记忆，应该好好收藏，只是今后的幸福，要各自去寻找。
爱是一种感觉，不爱也是一种感觉，而往往难以抉择的是心中的感觉到底是爱还是不爱。原来握在手里的，不一定就是你们真正拥有的；你们所拥有的，也不一定就是你们真正铭刻在心的。人生很多时候需要自觉的放弃，因为拥有的时候，你们也许正在失去，而放弃的时候，你们也许又在重新获得。
明白的人懂得放弃，真情的人懂得牺牲，幸福的人懂得超脱。对不爱自己的人，最需要的是理解、放弃和祝福。过多的自作多情是在乞求对方的施舍。爱与被爱，都是让人幸福的事情。不要让这些变成痛苦。既然你们已经经历了，多年以后，偶尔想起，希望都是美好的回忆。活的自信些，开心些，把最美的微笑留给伤你最深的人，聪明的人知道自己要快乐。
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10 Ways We Hurt Our Romantic Relationships
2008-08-26 21:42:52
It’s not easy to have a great relationship with your boy/girlfriend, partner, or spouse. But it’s not impossible, either — it takes some work, of course, but it’s work, work that’s a joy when everything comes together.
A lot of times, though, the work isn’t enough. We get in our own way with ideas and attitudes about relationships that are not only wrong, but often work to undermine our relationships no matter how hard we work at it.
I’ve watched a lot of breakups (some of them my own). I’ve seen dramatic flare-ups and drawn-out slow fades, and I’ve tried to pay attention to what seems to be going on. Here are a few of the things I’ve seen that cause people to destroy their own relationships.
1. You’re playing to win
One of the deadliest killers of relationships is the competitive urge. I don’t mean competition in the sense that you can’t stand to lose at tennis, I mean the attitude that the relationship itself is a kind of game that you’re tying to win. People in competitive relationships are always looking for an advantage, the upper hand, some edge they can hold over their partner’s head. If you feel that there are things you can’t tell your partner because she or he will use it against you, you’re in a competitive relationship — but not for long.
2. You don’t trust
There are two aspects of trust that are important in relationships. One is trusting your partner enough to know that s/he won’t cheat on you or otherwise hurt you — and to know that he or she trusts you that way, too. The other is trusting them enough to know they won’t leave you or stop loving you no matter what you do or say. The second that level of trust is gone, whether because one of you takes advantage of that trust and does something horrible or because one of you thinks the other has, the relationship is over — even if it takes 10 more years for you to break up.
3. You don’t talk
Too many people hold their tongues about things that bother or upset them in their relationship, either because they don’t want to hurt their partner, or because they’re trying to win. (See #1 above; example: “If you don’t know why I’m mad, I’m certainly not going to tell you!”) While this might make things easier in the short term, in the long run it gradually erodes the foundation of the relationship away. Little issues grow into bigger and bigger problems — problems that don’t get fixed because your partner is blissfully unaware, or worse, is totally aware of them but thinks they don’t really bother you. Ultimately, keeping quiet reflects a lack of trust — and, as I said that’s the death of a relationship.
4. You don’t listen
Listening — really listening — is hard. It’s normal to want to defend ourselves when we hear something that seems like criticism, so instead of really hearing someone out, we interrupt to explain or excuse ourselves, or we turn inward to prepare our defense. But your partner deserves your active listening. S/he even deserves you to hear the between-the-lines content of daily chit-chat, to suss out his/her dreams and desires when even s/he doesn’t even know exactly what they are. If you can’t listen that way, at least to the person you love, there’s a problem.
5. You spend like a single person
This was a hard lesson for me to learn — until it broke up a 7-year relationship. When you’re single, you can buy whatever you want, whenever you want, with little regard for the future. It’s not necessarily wise, but you’re the only one who has to pay the consequences. When you are with someone in a long-term relationship, that is no longer a possibility. Your partner — and your children, if there are or will be any — will have to bear the brunt of your spending, so you’d better get in the habit of taking care of household necessities first and then, if there’s anything left over, of discussing with your partner the best way to use it.
This is an increasing problem these days, because more and more people are opting to keep their finances separate, even when they’re married. There’s nothing wrong with that kind of arrangement in and of itself, but it demands more communication and involvement between the partners, not less. If you’re spending money as if it was your money and nobody else has a right to tell you what to do with it, your relationship is doomed.
6. You’re afraid of breaking up
Nobody in a truly happy partnership is afraid of breaking up. If you are, that’s a big warning sign that something’s wrong. But often, what’s wrong is the fear itself. Not only does it betray a lack of trust, but it shows a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem — you’re afraid that there’s no good reason for someone to want to be with you, and that sooner or later your partner will “wise up” and take off. So you pour more energy into keeping up the appearance of a happy relationships than you do into building yourself up as a person. Quite frankly, this isn’t going to be very satisfying for you, and it also isn’t going to be very satisfying for your partner.
7. You’re dependent
There’s a thin line between companionship and support and dependency. If you depend on your partner — that is, if you absolutely cannot live without her or him — you’ve crossed that line. The pressure is now on your partner to fill whatever’s missing in you — a pressure s/he will learn to resent. If you expect your partner to bring everything while you bring nothing to your relationship — and I’m talking finances as well as emotional support, here — you’re in trouble. (Note: I’m not saying that you need to contribute equally to household finances — what I’m saying is that if you’re not contributing to the household budget, and you’re not contributing anywhere else, things are out of whack and that’s never good.)
8. You expect Happiness
A sign of a bad relationship is that one or both partners expect either to make the other happy or for their partner to make them happy. This is not only an unrealistic expectation to lay on yourself or on them — nobody can “make” you happy, except you — but it’s an unrealistic expectation to lay on your relationship. Relationships aren’t only about being happy, and there’s lots of times when you won’t and even shouldn’t be. Being able to rely on someone even when you’re upset, miserable, depressed, or grieving is a lot more important than being happy all the time. If you expect your partner to make you happy — or worse, you’re frustrated because you aren’t able to make your partner happy — your relationship isn’t going to fare well when it hits a rough spot.
9. You never fight
A good argument is essential, every now and then. In part, arguing helps bring out the little stuff before it becomes major, but also, fighting expresses anger which is a perfectly normal part of a human’s emotional make-up. Your relationship has to be strong enough to hold all of who you are, not just the sunny stuff.
One reason couples don’t fight is that they fear conflict — which reflects a lack of trust and a foundation of fear. That’s bad. Another reason couples avoid arguments is that they’ve learned that anger is unreasonable and unproductive. They’ve learned that arguing represents a breakdown rather than a natural part of a relationship’s development. While an argument isn’t pleasant, it can help both partners to articulate issues they may not have even known they had — and help keep them from simmering until you cross a line you can’t come back from.
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There are two deeply problematic attitudes about relationships I hear often. One is that a relationship should be easy, that if you really love each other and are meant to be together, it will work itself out. The other is that anything worth having is going to be hard — and that therefore if it’s hard, it must be worth having.The outcome of both views is that you don’t work at your relationship. You don’t work because it’s supposed to be easy and therefore not need any work, or you don’t work because it’s supposed to be hard and it wouldn’t be hard if you worked at it. In both cases, you quickly get burnt out — either because the problems you’re ignoring really don’t go away just because you think they should. or because the problems you’re cultivating are a constant drag on your energy. A relationship that’s too much work might be suffering from one of the attitudes above, but a relationship that doesn’t seem to need any work isn’t any better.
Your choices
There isn’t any one answer to any of the problems above. There are choices though: you can either seek out an answer, something that addresses why you are hurting your relationship, or you can resign yourself to the failure of your relationship (and maybe the next one, and the next one, and…). Failure doesn’t always mean you break up — many people aren’t that lucky. But people can live quite unhappily in failed relationships for years and even decades because they’re afraid they won’t find anything better, or worse, they’re afraid they deserve it. Don’t you be one of them — if you suffer from any of these problems, figure out how to fix it, whether that means therapy, a solo mountain retreat, or just talking to your partner and committing yourselves to change.
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The Importance of Being Honest
2008-06-01 15:12:52
In the busy city of New York, such an astonishing thing that ever happened.
在繁华的纽约，曾经发生了这样一件震撼人心的事情。
On a Friday night, a poor young artist stood at the gate of the subway station, playing his violin. Though the music was great, people were quickly going home for the weekend. In this case, many of them slowed down their paces and put some money into the hat of the young man.
星期五的傍晚，一个贫穷的年轻艺人仍然像往常一样站在地铁站门口，专心致志地拉着他的小提琴。琴声优美动听，虽然人们都急急忙忙地赶着回家过周末，但还是有很多人情不自禁的放慢了脚步，时不时地会有一些人在年轻艺人跟前的礼帽里放一些钱。
The next day, the young artist came to the gate of the subway station, and put his hat on the ground gracefully. Different than the day before, he took out a large piece of paper and laid it on the ground and put some stones on it. Then he adjusted the violin and began playing. It seemed more pleasant to listen to.
第二天黄昏，年轻的艺人又像往常一样准时来到地铁门口，把他的礼帽摘下来很优雅地放在地上。和以往不同的是，他还从包里拿出一张大纸，然后很认真地铺在地上，四周还用自备的小石块压上。做完这一切以后，他调试好小提琴，又开始了演奏，声音似乎比以前更动听更悠扬。
Before long, the young violinist was surrounded with people, who were all attracted by the words on that paper. It said, "Last night, a gentleman named George Sang put an important thing into my hat by mistaken. Please come to claim it soon."
不久，年轻的小提琴手周围站满了人，人们都被铺在地上的那张大纸上的字吸引了，有的人还踮起脚尖看。上面写着：“昨天傍晚，有一位叫乔治-桑的先生错将一份很重要的东西放在我的礼帽里，请您速来认领。”
Seeing this, it caused a great excitement and people wondered what it could be. After about half an hour, a middle-aged man ran there in a hurry and rushed through the crowd to the violinist and grabbed his shoulders and said, "Yes, it's you. You did come here. I knew that you're an honest man and would certainly come here."
见此情景，人群之间引起一阵骚动，都想知道这是一份什么样的东西。过了半小时左右，一位中年男人急急忙忙跑过来，拨开人群就冲到小提琴手面前，抓住他的肩膀语无伦次的说：“啊！是您呀，您真的来了，我就知道您是个诚实的人，您一定会来的。”
The young violinist asked calmly, "Are you Mr. George Sang?"
年轻的小提琴手冷静地问：“您是乔治-桑先生吗？”
The man nodded. The violinist asked, "Did you lose something?"
那人连忙点头。小提琴手又问：“您遗落了什么东西吗？”
"Lottery. It's lottery," said the man.
那位先生说：“奖票，奖票”。
The violinist took out a lottery ticket on which George Sang's name was seen. "Is it?" he asked.
小提琴手于是掏出一张奖票，上面还醒目地写着乔治-桑，小提琴手举着彩票问：“是这个吗？”
George nodded promptly and seized the lottery ticket and kissed it, then he danced with the violinist.
乔治-桑迅速地点点头，抢过奖票吻了一下，然后又抱着小提琴手在地上跳起了舞。
The story turned out to be this: George Sang is an office clerk. He bought a lottery ticket issued by a bank a few days ago. The awards opened yesterday and he won a prize of $500,000. So he felt very happy after work and felt the music was so wonderful, that he took out 50 dollars and put in the hat. However the lottery ticket was also thrown in. The violinist was a student at an Arts College and had planned to attend advanced studies in Vienna. He had booked the ticket and would fly that morning. However when he was cleaning up he found the lottery ticket. Thinking that the owner would return to look for it, he cancelled the flight and came back to where he was given the lottery ticket.
原来事情是这样的，乔治-桑是一家公司的小职员，他前些日子买了一张一家银行发行的奖票，昨天上午开奖，他中了50万美元的奖金。昨天下班，他心情很好，觉得音乐也特别美妙，于是就从钱包里掏出50美元，放在了礼帽里，可是不小心把奖票也扔了进去。小提琴手是一名艺术学院的学生，本来打算去维也纳进修，已经定好了机票，时间就在今天上午，可是他昨天整理东西时发现了这张奖票，想到失主会来找，于是今天就退掉了机票，又准时来到这里。Later someone asked the violinist: "At that time you were in needed to pay the tuition fee and you had to play the violin in the subway station every day to make the money. Then why didn't you take the lottery ticket for yourself?"
后来，有人问小提琴手：“你当时那么需要一笔学费，为了赚够这笔学费，你不得不每天到地铁站拉提琴。那你为什么不把那50万元的奖票留下呢？”
The violinist said, "Although I don't have much money, I live happily; but if I lose honesty I won't be happy forever."
小提琴手说：“虽然我没钱，但我活得很快乐；假如我没了诚信，我一天也不会快乐。”
Through our lives, we can gain a lot and lose so much. But being honest should always be with us. If we bear ourselves in a deceptive and dishonest way, we may succeed temporarily. However, from the long-term view, we will be a loser. Such kind of people are just like the water on the mountain. It stands high above the masses at the beginning, but gradually it comes down inch by inch and loses the chance of going up.
在人的一生中，我们会得到许多，也会失去许多，但守信用却应是始终陪伴我们的。如果以虚伪、不诚实的方式为人处世，也许能获得暂时的“成功”，但从长远看，他最终是个失败者。这种人就像山上的水，刚开始的时候，是高高在上，但逐渐逐渐地它就越来越下降，再没有一个上升的机会。 -
Time is like a river！（转）
2008-06-01 14:37:50
Never explain yourself to any one.Because the person who likes you doesn`t need it, and the person who dislikes you won`t believe you.
永远不要向任何人解释你自己,因为喜欢你的人不需要, 而不喜欢你的人不会相信.
Don`t let someone become a priority in your life,when you are just an option in their life.....Relationships work best when they are balanced.
别让某人成为你生命中的优先, 而你只是他们生命中的一个选择. 人与人之间的关系只在彼此达到平衡时, 运作的最恰当.
When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices. Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams. Choice is yours....
每天早上醒来时, 我们可以有两上简单的选择: 回头去睡,继续做梦, 或者起身去追逐梦想. 选择权在你手上!
We make them cry who care for us. We cry for those who never care for us. And we care for those who will never cry for us.This is the truth of life. It`s strange but true. Once you realise this, it`s never too late to change.
我们总让在乎我们的人为自己哭泣,并总为那些永远不会在乎我们的人哭泣,且我们在意那些永远不会为我们哭泣的人.这是存在于生命中的事实,奇怪但却真实. 一旦你了解, 改变永远不会太迟.
Don`t make promise when you are in joy. Don`t reply when you are sad. Don`t take decision when you are angry. Think twice, act advisably.
别在喜悦时许下承诺, 别在忧伤时做出回答, 别在愤怒时下决定, 三思而后行,做出睿智的行为.
Time is like a river, you can`t touch the same water twice.Because the flow that has passed will never pass again. Enjoy every moment of life.
时间就像流水, 你永远无法触碰同样的水两次. 因为已经流逝的永远不会再来, 享受生命中的每一个当下.
When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free. When you keep saying you have no time, then you will ever have time. When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come.
当你持续的说你非常忙碌, 就永远不会得到空闲; 当你持续的说你没有时间, 就永远不会有时间; 当你持续的说这件事你明天再做, 你的"明天"就永远不会来(就永远不会去做). -
A goodbye kiss
2008-05-31 20:21:31
The Board Meeting had come to an end. Bob started to stand up and jostled the table, spilling his coffee over his notes. "How embarrassing.I am getting so clumsy in my old age."
Everyone had a good laugh, and soon we were all telling stories of our most embarrassing moments. It came around to Frank who sat quietly listening to the others. Someone said, "Come on, Frank. Tell us your most embarrassing moment."
Frank laughed and began to tell us of his childhood. "I grew up in San Pedro. My Dad was a fisherman, and he loved the sea. He had his own boat, but it was hard making a living on the sea.He worked hard and would stay out until he caught enough to feed the family. Not just enough for our family, but also for his Mom and Dad and the other kids that were still at home."
He looked at us and said, "I wish you could have met my Dad. He was a big man, and he was strong from pulling the nets and fighting the seas for his catch. When you got close to him, he smelled like the ocean. He would wear his old canvas, foul-weather coat and his bibbed overalls. His rain hat would be pulled down over his brow. No matter how much my Mother washed them, they would still smell of the sea and of fish."
Frank's voice dropped a bit. "When the weather was bad he would drive me to school. He had this old truck that he used in his fishing business. That truck was older than he was. It would wheeze and rattle down the road. You could hear it coming for blocks. As he would drive toward the school,I would shrink down into the seat hoping to disappear. Half the time, he would slam to a stop and the old truck would belch a cloud of smoke. He would pull right up in front, and it seemed like everybody would be standing around and watching. Then he would lean over and give me a big kiss on the cheek and tell me to be a good boy. It was so embarrassing for me. Here, I was twelve years old, and my Dad would lean over and kiss me goodbye!"
He paused and then went on, "I remember the day I decided I was too old for a goodbye kiss. When we got to the school and came to a stop, he had his usual big smile. He started to lean toward me, but I put my hand up and said, 'No, Dad.'
It was the first time I had ever talked to him that way, and he had this surprised look on his face.
I said, 'Dad, I'm too old for a goodbye kiss. I'm too old for any kind of kiss.'
My Dad looked at me for the longest time, and his eyes started to tear up. I had never seen him cry. He turned and looked out the windshield. 'You're right,' he said. 'You are a big boy....a man. I won't kiss you anymore.'"
Frank got a funny look on his face, and the tears began to well up in his eyes, as he spoke. "It wasn't long after that when my Dad went to sea and never came back. It was a day when most of the fleet stayed in, but not Dad. He had a big family to feed. They found his boat adrift with its nets half in and half out. He must have gotten into a gale and was trying to save the nets and the floats."
I looked at Frank and saw that tears were running down his cheeks. Frank spoke again. "Guys, you don't know what I would give to have my Dad give me just one more kiss on the cheek....to feel his rough old face....to smell the ocean on him....to feel his arm around my neck. I wish I had been a man then. If I had been a man, I would never have told my Dad I was too old for a goodbye kiss." -
Today,I Choose...
2008-05-27 22:18:01
It's quiet. It's early.
The sky is still black. The world is still asleep.
In a few moments the day will arrive. It will roar down the track with the rising of the sun. The stillness of the dawn will be exchanged for the noise of the day. The calm of solitude will be replaced by the pounding pace of the human race.
The refuge of the early morning will be invaded by decisions to be made and deadlines to be met.For the next twelve hours I will be exposed to the day's demands. It is now that I must make a choice. I'm free to choose, and so I choose...
I choose love ..
No occasion justifies hatred;
No injustice warrants bitterness.I choose joy ...
I will refuse the temptation to be cynical... the tool of the lazy thinker.I choose peace ...
I will live forgiven.
I will forgive so that I may live.I choose patience ...
I will overlook the inconveniences of the world.
Instead of clenching my fist at new assignments,
I will face them with joy and courage.I choose gentleness ..
Nothing is won by force.
I choose to be gentle.You're listening to Faith Radio Online-Simply to Relax,
I'm Faith. Love, joy, peace, patience and gentleness,
to these I commit my day. -
Happy mother's day
2008-05-11 17:37:37
Today is Mother's day,may all mothers have good health and happy everyday.
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Mama
2008-05-05 20:05:29
Mama
Spice girls
She used to be my only enemy and never let me be free
Catching me in places that i knew i shouldn't be
Every other day i crossed the line
I didn't mean to be so bad
I never thought you would become the friend i never had
Back then i didn't know why why you were misunderstood
So now i see through your eyes all that you did was love
Mama I love you Mama I care
Mama I Love you Mama my friend
You're my friendI didn't want to hear it then but i'm not ashamed to say it now
Every little thing you said and did was right for me
I had a lot of time to think about about the way i used to be
Never had a sense of my responsibility
Back then i didn't know why why you were misunderstood
So now i see through your eyes all that you did was love
Mama I love you Mama I care
Mama I Love you Mama my friend
You're my friend You're my friendBut now i'm sure i know why why you were misunderstood
So now i see through your eyes all i can give you is love
Mama I love you Mama I care
Mama I Love you Mama my friend
[repeat ×2]
You're my friend
You're my friend
I'm loving you you loving me
Our love that true and guaranteed -
what shoud i do?
2008-05-02 10:13:12
I have worked in current company for almost 3 years, Honestly, I love this job and work hard. Fortunately, my boss and my manager treat me well, they all helped me a lot and told me many skills about how to do things better. But now I find that I have no enthusiasm on my job. One reason is maybe I know well about this company now. Another is since I lose my last love 4 months ago, I still can’t get over it. I am about to burst into tears at lonely moment and I don’t even know why, I feel like I am wandering through life without purpose everyday. I always think that I am a loser, and want to get away from this unhappy place. So I don’t concentrate my energy on my job.My manager always tell us,the good mood is important to work and live. I also remind myself, something must change, but you know,it is easier said than done,in fact it is so hard to make some change.I really don't want live like this, What should I do?help me,God!
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百年电影经典名句
2008-04-27 20:14:49
1、Gone With the Wind 《乱世佳人》
"... tomorrow is another day!"
“明天又是新的一天!”
【《乱世佳人》(1939)的结尾，命运乖舛的费雯丽站在树下迎向阳光，说出这句百折不挠的名句。】
2、Titanic《泰坦尼克》
Jack: "You must do me this honor... promise me you will survive... that you will never give up... no matter what happens... no matter how hopeless... promise me now, and never let go of that promise.
Rose: "I promise."
Jack: "Never let go.
Rose: "I promise. I will never let go, Jack. I'll never let go."
杰克：“我还有……还有一个心愿，你……你……必须答应我要活下去，不……不能绝望，无论发生什么，无论……有多艰难……快答应我，罗丝……答应我，一定做到，一定做到……”
罗丝：“我答应你……杰克……一定做到……一定……”
【即使再过一千年、一万年，这样“情真意切、感人肺腑、催人泪下”的话语也不会落伍于时代，因为它是人类崇高爱情的一种升华，是真爱的最高境界。】
3、《007系列》
"Bond. James Bond."
“我是邦德，詹姆斯?邦德。”
【007电影系列的招牌台词。 此语是刺激“邦德迷”们肾上腺素加速分泌的最有效的“催化剂”（虽已用过19次），Fans伴随着邦德一次次出生入死、一次次非凡艳遇、一次次化险为夷、一次次惊声尖叫……邦德已成为Fans心目中不死的银幕神话。】
4、Forrest Gump《阿甘正传》
Momma always said: "Life is like a box of chocolates, Forrest. You never know what you're gonna get."
阿甘：“妈妈常常说，生命就如同一盒朱古力，你永远不会知道你将得到什么。”
【这是阿甘经常提醒自己、“劝诫”他人的话。正是这句富含哲理的“箴言”激励着善良真诚、乐天知命的阿甘脚踏实地、努力拼搏，并终由一名智障者变成了美国人心目中一个不朽的传奇人物。】
5、The Terminator《终结者》
"I'll be back!"
T-800：“我会回来的！”
【阿诺先生在《魔鬼终结者》(1984)中怎么也死不了，临走前还撂下这句狠话。无需注解，事实上它已成为了阿诺周游各地后，与Fans辞别时的标志“结束语”。】
6、THE SHAWSHANK REDEMPTION 《肖申克的救赎》
Fear can hold you prisoner. Hope can set you free.
恐惧让你沦为囚犯。希望可以感受自由。
7、 《计程车司机》
You talkin' to me?"
你在对我说话吗？
【劳勃迪尼诺练习耍酷拔枪时所说的台词。】
8、《外星人》
"E.T. phone home."
E.T.打电话回家
【史匹柏的温馨感人电影中，外星人E.T.会讲英文。】
9、 《绿野仙踪》
"There's no place like home."
世界上再没有地方像家一样。
【小女孩桃乐斯历经重重冒险，最后总算回到家。】
10、《简?爱》
"I tell you I must go!' I retorted, roused to something like passion. 'Do you think I can stay to become nothing to you? Do you think I am an automaton?- a machine without feelings? and can bear to have my morsel of bread snatched from my lips, and my drop of living water dashed from my cup? Do you think, because I am poor, obscure, plain, and little, I am soulless and heartless? You think wrong!- I have as much soul as you,- and full as much heart! And if God had gifted me with some beauty and much wealth, I should have made it as hard for you to leave me, as it is now for me to leave you. I am not talking to you now through the medium of custom, conventionalities, nor even of mortal flesh;- it is my spirit that addresses your spirit; just as if both had passed through the grave, and we stood at God's feet, equal,- as we are!"
“我告诉你我非走不可！”我回驳着，感情很有些冲动。“你难道认为，我会留下来甘愿做一个对你来说无足轻重的人？你以为我是一架机器？——一架没有感情的机器？能够容忍别人把一口面包从我嘴里抢走，把一滴生命之水从我杯子里泼掉？难道就因为我一贫如洗、默默无闻、长相平庸、个子瘦小，就没有灵魂，没有心肠了？——你不是想错了吗？——我的心灵跟你一样丰富，我的心胸跟你一样充实！要是上帝赐予我一点姿色和充足的财富，我会使你同我现在一样难分难舍，我不是根据习俗、常规，甚至也不是血肉之躯同你说话，而是我的灵魂同你的灵魂在对话，就仿佛我们两人穿过坟墓，站在上帝脚下，彼此平等——本来就如此！”
12、《北非谍影》
"Louis, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship."
路易斯，我想这是一段美好友谊的开始。
13、《毕业生》
"Mrs. Robinson, you're trying to seduce me, aren't you?"
罗宾森太太，你正在挑逗我吧？
14、《卡萨布兰卡》
Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all the world，she walks into mine.
“世界一切城市的一切酒店她都不去，偏偏要到我的店里来。”(亨弗莱?鲍嘉)
15、《西雅图夜未眠》
It's time to wrap it up.
节目的时间到了。
【当影片结尾父子两人离开帝国大厦，而安妮面对着寂静而空无一人的顶层时，观众无一不被感动。】
16、《兄弟连》
I remember my grandson asked me the other day, he said: "Grandpa, were you a hero in the great war?"
"No," I replied, "But I served in a company of heroes."
有一天我的小孙子问我“爷爷，你是大战中的英雄吗？我回答：不……但我与英雄们一同服役。
17、《甜心先生》
Show me the money!
给我钱！
18、My best friend's wedding 《我最好朋友的婚礼》
Michael, I love you. I've loved you for nine years; I've just been too arrogant and scared to realize it. Oh… Now I'm just scared. I… I realize this comes at a very inopportune time, but I really have this gigantic favor to ask of you. Choose me. Marry me. Let me make you happy.
Michael，我爱你。九年来，我一直在心底深爱着你。我只是太傲慢、太害怕去承认我对你的感情。现在的我也是非常的害怕。Michael，我知道现在说这话也许不是时候，但是我还是要请你答应我的请求。选择我，让我做你的新娘，让我带给你幸福吧！
19、《哈姆雷特》
To be, or not to be- that is the question
生存或毁灭, 这是个必答之问题。
20、《大话西游》
I have had my best love before, but I didn't treasure her. When I lost her, I fell regretful. It is the most painful matter in this world. If God can give me another chance, I will say 3 words to her --- I love you. If you have to give a time limit to this love, I hope it is 10 thousand years.
曾经有一段真挚的爱情摆在我的面前，我却没有珍惜，直到失去才追悔莫及。人世间最大的痛苦莫过于此。如果上天再给我一次机会的话，我一定会对那女孩说三个字：我爱你。如果非要在这段爱情前加个期限的话，我希望是一万年。
21、《傲慢与偏见》
It is a truth universally acknowledged, that a single man in possession of a good fortune must be in want of a wife.
凡是有钱的单身汉，总想娶位太太，这已经成了一条举世公认的真理。
22、罗马假日 Roman Holiday
Well, life isn't always what one likes, istn't it?
嗯，人生不会尽如人意，不是吗？
23. 《女人香》
Some people live in a lifetime in a minute.
有人一分钟里就度过了一生。
24. 《神探亨特》
You are under arrest for so and so reason. You have the right to remain silent. Anything what you say can and will be used in the court of law against you. You have the right to an attorney. If you cannot afford one, one will be provided to you.
你现在被捕了！你有权保持缄默，但你说的每句话将成为呈堂证供。你有权要求见你的律师。如果你没有律师，我们将为你提供一名律师。
25、《蒙娜丽莎的微笑》
Come to class, do the work, or I'll fail you.
按时上课，做作业，要不然给你不及格。
26、《乱世佳人》
Frankly, my dear, I don't care!
“坦白说，亲爱的，我不在乎。”
27、《恺撒大帝》
I come, I see, I conquer!
我来，我见，我征服！
28.《爱情故事》
love means never having to say you're sorry!
爱是永不言悔！
29、《星愿》
The furthest distance in the world is not between life and death. But when I stand in front of you yet I don't say: "I love you " .
世界上最遥远的距离不是生和死，而是站在你面前却不能说：“我爱你”。
30、《日落大道》
I am big! It's the pictures that got small.
我很大！是画面太小了。
31、《魂断蓝桥》
Oh Roy, you're alive!
战争终于过去，活下来的Roy满心欢喜地回到家乡，在火车站遇到了已沦入风尘的恋人Mara。男的是喜出望外、讲起话来喋喋不休；女的却只重复着那一句话“你还活着”：
32、《狮子王》
Yes, the past can hurt. But I think you can either run from it or learn from it.
对，过去是痛楚的，但我认为你要么可以逃避，要么可以向它学习。
33、《落跑的新娘》
"I guarantee that we'll have tough times. I guarantee that at some point one or both of us will want to get out. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I'll regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart -- you're the only one for me."
“我肯定我们会分开；我肯定我们一方离另一方而去，在一个人死后。但更我肯定，我现在若不求你留下来陪我，我会后悔一辈子。”
34、Roman Holiday《罗马假日》
J: Which of the cities that you visited did your Highness enjoy the most?
A: Each in its own way was unforgettable. It would be difficult to ...Rome. By all means, Rome. I will cherish my visit here in memory, as long as I live!
记者：公主殿下对所访问的城市中印象最深的是哪一个呢？
安妮公主：每一个城市都各具特色而令人难忘，很难……罗马，无疑是罗马。我会珍惜在这里的记忆，直到永远！
35、《诺丁山/又译新娘百分百》
“I'm just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her.”
我是不过一个girl，站在心爱的男孩的面前，需要他爱我的一个girl
36、《加菲猫》
Money is not everything. There's Mastercard & Visa.
钞票不是万能的，有时还需要信用卡。
37、《音乐之声》
When The Lord closes a door, somewhere he opens a window.
主现在把这扇门关起来了，但是，在某处他为你开了一面窗子。
38、《当哈利遇见了莎莉》：
电影最后Harry在除夕夜向Sally的表白
And it's not because I'm lonely and it's not because it's New Year's Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible!
(我来这）不是因为我寂寞，也不是因为除夕夜。今晚我上这来，因为如果你知道了自己想和谁一起度过余生，你会希望余生开始得越早越好
39、《四个婚礼一个葬礼》：
I thought that love would last forever: I was wrong.
我以为爱将直到永远，然而我错了！
40、《六月虫》
"God loves you just the way you are, but too much to let you stay that way."
上帝就是喜欢本来的你，但因为太喜欢了，所以又不能让你一直那样。
41、《彗星美人》
"Fasten your seatbelts. It's going to be a bumpy night."
“紧上安全带，今晚将会非常颠簸。”
42、《终结者》
I'll be back！
我还会回来的！
43、《越狱》
You're telling me you're just gonna walk out of here and I'm never going to see it again.
别告诉我——就这样走出去而我却再也看不到它了。
【可以说主人翁的纹身在影片中有着重要的意义，也许是世界上最美的，最有价值的纹身了，它是迈克尔逃出监狱的法宝！】
44、《绝望主妇》
I have dug myself up from dirt to afford these things, and no one is going to take them away from me!
我出身贫寒，努力工作才能买得起这些东西，没人能从我这里把这些夺走！
45、《向左走，向右走》
They're both convinced
that a sudden passion joined them.
Such certainty is beautiful,
but uncertainty is more beautiful still.
他们彼此深信
是瞬间迸发的热情让他们相遇。
这样的确定是美丽的，
但变幻无常更为美。
46、《偷天陷阱》
Believe me, I was prepared for everything, except you
相信我，一切就绪，只差你！
47、《这个杀手不太冷》
No women, No kids.
不杀女人和孩子。
【体现专业杀手的敬业原则】
48、Schindler's List《辛德勒的名单》
This car, Goethe would have bought this car. Why do I keep the car? Ten people by that, ten people, ten more people. This pin, two people. This is gold, two more people. He would have given me two for it, at least one. He would have given me one, one more, one more person, person, Stern, for this. I could have got one more person, and I didn't, and I didn't ......
这辆车，歌德应该会买。我为什么留这辆车，它能换十条命，十条命，多救十个人。这枚胸针，可以救两条命。这是黄金，可多救两个人，他会让我换两个，至少一个人，他会多个我一个人，多一个人，是一个人，斯滕，这个可以换一人的命。我本可多救一个人，可我没有，可我没有……
49、《美梦成真》
The end，is only the beginning.
结束，只是一个开始!
50、《卡萨布兰卡》
I'll steak my neck out for nobody.
我不会为任何人舍命。 -
dream
2008-04-22 21:16:56
everybody has his own dream,so do i,but it is my secret that i never tell.why,maybe one reason is that i haven't enough confidence, i am afraid the jeer if my dream can't come true,you know some people like do it.the other reason is that i cann't persevere in doing sth,at the same time,i think it is my biggest disadvantage,although i know the truth that if you want to be the best,you should try you best.actually i didn't try my best most times,sometimes i really hope that i can meet my Mrs Right earlier that she can help me.
but life doesn't always go my way,i am single now. 
people around me always said that i have a high sight,i don't admit it before.but what has happened on me is so crule,so real.it seems there is a voice around my ears,"don't set your sights too high,just come back to the real world."face to this,i really want to lower my head sometimes,but stronger is what i need.i know. -
what is the purpose of so much busy life?
2008-04-18 19:15:32
why?
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Today, i weeped
2008-04-17 20:28:06
Today,we have a job-training in company,the topic is how to be a superexcellent staff.The teacher told us that a supperexcellent staff should have responsibility,strong quality consciousness and thanksgiving.At the same time,we watched some interrelated vedio.after we watched one which is about a successful man's thanksgiving story.we all moved.At that time,i thought back a bigger scene,several years ago,I joined a training which is about the study of success,hundreds of people moved and weeped because the teacher's wonderful speech and affecting story.he said most of our parents lived simple and saving,so that we could finish our college study.but few of us said thanks to them.after he said,we all shamed and lower down our heads.I have a deeply impression about it.you know,most of us really never said thanks to our parents.
yes,we owe our parents so much.that's maybe why we weeped.but how to repay them better? -
Please Forgive Me
2008-04-13 19:12:29
Please Forgive Me
bryan adams
still feels like our first night together,
feels like the first kiss,
it's getting better. baby, no one can better this.
still holding on, you're still the one.
first time our eyes met, same feeling i get,
only feels much stronger, wanna love you longer.
you still turn the fire on.
（chorus）
so if you're feeling lonely, don't,
you're the only one i ever want.
i only wanna make it good,
so if i love you a little more than i should
please forgive me, i know not what i do
please forgive me, i can't stop loving you
don't deny me, this pain i'm going through
please forgive me, if i need you like i do.
please believe me, every word i say is true,
please forgive me, i can't stop lovin' you.
still feels like our best times are together
feels like the first touch
still getting' closer, baby, can't get close enough
still holdin' on, still number one.
i remember the smell of your skin, i remember everything
i remember all your moves, i remember you.
i remember the nights, you know i still do
（chorus）
one thing i'm sure of is the way we make love
and one thing i depend on is for us to stay strong
with every word and every breath i'm praying
that's why i'm saying
please forgive me, i know not what i do
please forgive me, i can't stop loving you
don't deny me, this pain i'm going through
please forgive me if i need you like i do
babe, believe me every word i say is true
please forgive me if i can't stop loving you
never leave me, i don't know what i'd do,
please forgive me, i can't stop loving you.
can't stop lovin' you. -
转《绝望的主妇》每集结束语整理，超级经典！
2008-04-04 20:16:31
101 The next day my friends came together to pack away my clothes, my personal belongings and what was left of my life. Not quite Gabrielle, not quite. How ironic. To have something I tried so desperately to keep secret treated so causally. I’m so sorry, girls. I never wanted you to burden with this. 第二天我的朋友们都来帮我收拾衣服，私人物品还有――我剩下的那些东西。远不只这些Gabrielle，远不只。多么讽刺，我拼命努力想要保守的秘密就这样随便的被她们发现了。对不起，姐妹们。我绝对不想让你们承受这种负担。
102 Yes, as I look back at the world I left behind, it's all so clear to me. The beauty that waits to be unveiled, the mysteries that long to be uncovered. But, people so rarely stop to take a look. They just keep moving. It's a shame, really. There's so much to see. 是的，当我回头看我身后的世界，它变得如此清晰。那么多期待闪亮登场的美丽，那么多渴望不被发现的秘密。但人们很少停下脚步去观察，他们只是一路前行。这真的很可惜。
103 Yes I remember the world. Every detail. And what I remember most is how afraid I was, what a waste. You see, to live in fear is not to live at all. I wish I could tell this to those I left behind, but would it do any good? Probably not. I understand now, there will always be those who face their fears, and there will always be those who run away. 是的，我记得这个世界的每一个细节。对我影响最深刻是却是我如何的害怕，真是浪费生命！活在恐惧中就和死了一样。我希望能把这些告诉给留在这世上的人，但是会有帮助吗？也许不会。我终于明白了，当恐惧来临的时候，总会有人去坚强的面对，也总会有人选择逃避。
104 What type of person would send such a note? Was it an enemy? Of course! But what kind? An acquaintance? A stranger? Or how about a neighbor that lives a few feet away? 什么样的人会寄这样一张字条？是敌人？当然了！但是是什么样的敌人？萍水相逢？还是陌生人？或者就是一个街坊邻居？
105 People by their very nature are always on the lookout for intruders, trying to prevent those on the outside from getting in. But there will always be those who force their way into our lives, just as there will be those we invite in. But the most troubling of all will be the ones who stand on the outside looking in. The ones we never truly get to know. 人类的天性就是提防那些入侵者，我们努力防止外人进入我们的生活。但就像我们有时会邀请客人一样，总会有人强行进入我们的生活。不过最令人头痛的还是那些站在远处监视着我们的人，我们永远不知道他们的真面目。
106 The search for power begins when we are quite young. As children, we are taught that the power of good triumphs over the power of evil. But as we get older, we realize that nothing is ever that simple. Traces of evil always remain. 我们很小的时候就知道追求权力。我们还是孩子的时候学到的是邪不胜正。但我们长大之后发现事情远没有那样单纯。邪恶的踪迹总是存在。
107 Competition, it means different things to different people. But whether it’s a friendly rivalry, or a fight to the death. The end result is the same. There will be winners, and there will be losers. Of course the trick is to know which battles to fight. You see, no victory comes without a price. 竞争意味着不同的事对不同的人。但不管是一场友好的竞赛还是致命的搏斗，最终结局都是一样的――有胜利者，也有失败者。当然，秘诀在于自己要知道该参加哪场斗争。因为，任何胜利都是有代价的。
108 There is a widely read book that tells us everyone is a sinner. Of course, not everyone feels guilt over the bad things they do. In contrast, there are those who assume more than their share of the blame. There are others who soothe their consciences with small acts of kindness. Or by telling themselves their sins were justified. Finally, there are the ones who simply vow to do better next time, and pray for forgiveness. Sometimes, their prayers are answered. 有一本广泛流传的书（《圣经》）告诉我们每个人都是罪人。当然并不是所有人做完坏事之后都会内疚，相对的，也有人承担了过多的罪过。有些人会做些小小的善事来安抚他们的良心；或者告诉自己他们是替天行道。最后，有些人仅仅发誓说下次会做得更好，并祈求原谅。有时他们的祈祷得到了回应。
109 People are complicated creatures, on the one hand, able to perform great acts of charity; on the other, capable of the most underhanded forms of betrayal. It is a constant battle that ranges within all of us, between the better angels of our nature, and the temptation of our inner demons. And sometimes the only way to ward off the darkness is to shine the light of compassion. 人是一种复杂的生物。一方面，能乐善好施；另一方面，也能背信弃义。我们的内心在善良的天使和欲望的魔鬼之间不断的斗争着。有时，抵挡黑暗的唯一办法就是发出仁慈的光芒。
110 Trust is a fragile thing, once earned, it affords us tremendous freedom； but once trust is lost, it can be impossible to recover. Of course the truth is, we never know who we can trust. Those we are closest to can betray us. And total strangers can come to our rescue. In the end, most people decide to trust only themselves. It really is the simplest way to keep from getting burned. 信任是很微妙的东西，一旦得到我们会感觉到无比自由；但是一旦失去就几乎不可能再挽回。当然，我们永远不知道可以相信谁。最亲近的人也有可能背叛我们，而未曾谋面的人也可能伸出援助之手。所以，大多数人决定只相信自己。这是避免引火上身最简单的方法。
111 We are all searching for some one. That special person who will provide us what’s missing in our lives, someone who can offer companionship, or resistance, or security. And sometimes if we search very hard, we can find someone who provides us with all three. Yes for all searching for someone. And if we can’t find them, we can only pray they find us. 我们都在寻找某个人。那个特殊的人会填补我们生命中的空白，有的伸出友谊之手，有的防守反击，有的给我们带来安全感。如果我们竭尽全力去寻找，有时会找到符合这三种条件的人。没错，我们都在追寻某个人。如果我们没找到，就只能祈求他们来找我们。
112 Death is inevitable. It’s a promise made to each of us at birth. But before that promise is kept, we all hope something will happen to us, whether it is the thrill of romance, the joy of raising a family, or the anguish of great loss. We all hope to experience something that make our lives meaningful, but the sad fact is, not all lives have meaning. Some people spend their time on this planet just sitting on the sidelines, waiting for something to happen to them, before it’s too late. 死亡是不可避免的。每个人在生下来之后都会得到的保证。但在那个保证履行之前我们都希望能遇到某些事，可能是一段激动人心的罗曼史，可能是生儿育女的喜悦，可能是巨大损失的痛苦。我们都希望经历让生命有意义的事情，但令人难过的是并非所有的生命都有意义。有些人一生只是站在远处等待那些事从天而降，结果蹉跎光阴。
113 Sooner or later, the time comes when we all must become responsible adults, and learn to give up what we want, so we can choose to do what is right. Of course, a life time of responsibility isn’t always easy, and as the years go on, it’s a burden that can become too heavy for some to bear. But still we try to do what is best, what is good. Not only for ourselves, but for those we love. Yes, sooner or later we must all become responsible adults. No one knows this better than the young. 早晚我们都会成为负有责任的成人，学会为了正确的选择而放弃一些事。当然想要负起毕生的责任并非易事，随着年龄的增长这个负担会使有些人承受不起。不过我们仍然要尽力而为，为自己，更为我们所爱的人。是的，早晚我们都会成为负有责任的成人，没有人比年轻人更清楚这一点。
114 It’s impossible to grasp just how powerful love is, it can sustain us through trying times, or motivate us to make extraordinary sacrifices; it can force decent man to commit the darkest deeds, or compel ordinary woman to search for hidden truths. And long after we’re gone, love remains burned into our memories. We all search for love, but some of us, after we found it, wish we hadn’t. 人们无法理解爱的力量究竟有多大，它能让我们渡过艰难困苦；或者鼓励我们做出特殊牺牲；它能逼迫正人君子诲淫诲盗；也能迫使平凡女人发掘真相。即使我们早已不在人世，爱仍在我们的回忆里。我们都在寻找爱，但是有些人在找到之后却希望不曾找到它。
115 Yes, each new day in suburbia brings with it a new set of lies. The worst are the ones we tell ourselves before we fall asleep. We whisper them in the dark, telling ourselves we are happy, or that he’s happy that we can change, or that he will change his mind. We persuade ourselves we can live with our sins, or that we can live without him. Yes, each night before we fall asleep we lie to ourselves in a desperate, desperate hope that come morning, it will all be true. 是的，郊区每个全新的一天都会带来新的谎言。最糟糕的是我们睡前告诉自己的话。我们在黑暗里对自己轻语，告诉自己很快乐，或者说他会因为我们的改变而快乐，或说他会改变他的想法。我们说服自己可以带着罪过生活，或没有他也能活着。没错，每晚临睡之前我们都会骗自己，极其热切的希望当早晨醒来时，美梦成真。
116 Yes, everyone loves a scandal, no matter how big or small. After all, what could be more entertaining than watching the downfall of the high and mighty? What could be more amusing than the public exposure of hypocritical sinners? Yes, everyone loves a scandal, and if for some reason, you are not enjoying the latest one…Well, the next one is always around the corner. 是的，每个人都喜欢丑闻，不管大或小。毕竟，有什么能比看到权贵的衰败和伪善之人公布于众更有乐趣呢？是的，每个人都喜欢丑闻，就算你不喜欢最新的也没关系。下一个总会满足你的要求。
117 We all honor heroes for different reasons, sometimes for their daring, sometimes for their bravery, sometimes for their goodness. But mostly we honor heroes because at one point or another, we all dream to be rescued. Of course, if the right hero doesn’t come along, sometimes we just have to rescue ourselves. 基于不同的原因我们都尊敬英雄，有时因为他们的大胆，有时因为他们的英勇，有时因为他们的善良。但我们崇敬英雄的主要原因是因为某些时候我们都梦想被他们拯救。当然，如果那个英雄没有出现，有时我们只好拯救自己。
118 Children come into the world with their own agendas, some to brighten our days, some to test our patience, some to give us purpose, some to take care of us. Yes, when they come, children change everything. Especially when they’re not invited. 孩子们带着他们的使命来到人间，有些照亮我们的人生，有些考验我们的耐性，有些带给我们活着的理由，还有些来照顾我们。是的，孩子的降临改变一切，尤其是他们不请自来的时候。
119 Yes, life is a journey, one that is much better traveled with a companion by our side. Of course that companion can be just about anyone - a neighbor on the other side of the street - or the man on the other side of the bed? The companion can be a mother with good intentions, or a child who is up to no good. Still despite our best intentions, some of us will lose our companions along the way and then the journey becomes unbearable. You see, human beings are designed for many things. But loneliness is not one of them. 是的，人生是一场旅程，我们最好结伴同行。当然同伴可以是任何人。也许是对街的邻居，或者是同床的男人。这位同伴可能是个用心良苦的母亲，也可能是个不怀好意的孩子。虽然我们没有恶意，但有些人还是会在旅程当中失去他们的伴侣，接下来这段旅程开始变得难以忍受。要知道人可以忍受很多事，但孤独却不在其中。
120 Yes, spring comes every year to Wisteria Lane. But not everyone remembers to stop and smell the flowers. Some are too busy worrying about the future, or mistakes they’ve made in the past. Others are preoccupied with not getting caught, or thinking of ways to catch someone else. Still there will always be a few who remember to take a moment and appreciate what spring has given them. Just as there will always be those who prefer to sit in the dark, brooding over everything they’ve lost. 每年春天都降临在Wisteria Lane，但并不是每个人都会停下脚步来嗅嗅花香。有些人忙于担心他们的未来，有些人担心他们的“过”错。还有人费尽心机夹住尾巴过日子或是逮住别人的小尾巴。但还是会有少数人记得花些时间来珍惜春天所赐的一切，就像总会有人宁愿呆在黑暗里，数落他们失去的一切。
121 The vow is simple really. Those who take it promise to stay together, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, to honor and to cherish, forsaking all others, until death do us part. Yes, the vow is simple. Finding someone worthy of such a promise is the hard part. But if we can, that’s when we begin to live happily ever after. 誓言其实很简单。发誓的人承诺无论生活好与坏，无论富裕与贫穷，无论疾病与健康，永远忠贞至死不渝。是的，誓言很简单。但困难的是能否找到值得许下诺言的那个终生伴侣。不过如果我们能找到的话，那么我们就可以从此幸福快乐的活着了。
122 Nothing is forever, and the time comes when we all must say goodbye to the world we knew, goodbye to everything we had taken for granted, goodbye to those we thought would never abandon us, and when these changes finally do occur, when the familiar has departed, and the unfamiliar has taken its place, all any of us can really do is to say hello…and welcome! 没有东西是永恒的。我们都会有离开世界的那一刻，那时我们要向曾经熟悉的世界说再见，向曾经没有珍惜的一切说再见，向我们曾认为不会抛弃我们的人说再见。当熟悉变得陌生，当陌生变成习惯的时候，我们只能无力的说声：哈罗，欢迎！
123 It’s an odd thing to look back on the world, to watch those I left behind. Each in her own way so brave so determined, and so very desperate. Desperate to venture out, but afraid of what she’ll miss when she goes. Desperate to get everything she wants, even when she is not exactly sure of what that is. Desperate for life to be perfect again, although she realizes it never really was. Desperate for a better future, if she can find a way to escape her past. I am not only watch; I cheer them on, these amazing women. I hope so much that they’ll find what they’re looking for, but I know not all them will. Sadly… that’s just not the way life works, not everyone gets a happy ending. 回头看身后的世界和生前好友这种感觉很奇妙。她们都以自己的方式活着，那么勇敢，那么果断，充满着渴望。有的人渴望去冒险，又怕离开后会想念。有的人渴望得到一切，尽管她并不确定到底想要什么。有的人渴望重新得到完美的人生，即使她的生活从来就没有完美过。有的人渴望得到美好的未来，但她必须先想办法逃避过去。我并不只是看着她们，我也在为这些了不起的女人加油助威。我衷心希望她们能找到她们追求的东西，但我知道并不是所有人都能如愿。悲哀的是，这就是生活，并不是每个人都有快乐结局。
201 It had been one year since my suicide, and a lot has changed in Wisteria Lane. There were new flowers, new houses, and new neighbors, the kind anyone would want living right next door. 我自杀已经一年了，在这一年里Wisteria Lane变化很大。新的花儿，新的房子，还有每个人都想紧挨着的新邻居。
202 Control is extraordinary the tactics people employ to obtain it, some rely on deception, while others engage in outright trickery, then there those who were resort to extortion. Why do we fight so hard for control? Because we know to lose it’s to put our fate in the hands of others, and what could be more dangerous？人们为了获得支配权会使用各种策略，有些人靠欺骗，有些人靠哄骗，还有些人诉诸敲诈。为什么我们这么拼命要得到支配权呢？因为我们知道一旦失去它我们就会被别人所掌控，还有什么比这更危险呢？
203 Everyone enjoys the game of make-believe now and then, of course the ways in which we play vary greatly, sometimes we tell ourselves work won't interfere with our family life. Sometimes we imagine certain relationships to be more meaningful than they really are. Occasionally, we put on a show as if to convince ourselves our secrets are really all that terrible. Yes, the game of make-believe is a simple one. You start by lying to yourself, and if you can get others to believe those lies, you win. 人们都喜欢偶尔自欺欺人一下，当然每个人的方法各不相同。有的人告诉自己不会因家庭耽误了工作；有的人喜欢想象一段比实际更有意义的生活。有时，我们制造假象，说服自己我们的秘密并没有那么糟糕。是的，自欺欺人很容易。由欺骗自己开始，如果别人也相信你的话，恭喜你，你赢了！
204 The world is filled with good fathers, how do we recognize them? They're the ones who are missed so terribly that everything falls apart in their absence; they're the ones who love us long before we've even arrived; they're the ones who come looking for us when we can't find our way home. Yes, the world is filled with good fathers. And the best are the one who make the women in their lives...feel like good mothers. 世界上到处都有好爸爸，但是怎么辨别他们呢？如果他们不在身边我们会感到伤心欲绝，痛苦无比；他们在我们降生之前就深爱着我们；他们在我们迷路的时候带领我们回家。的确，世界上到处都有好爸爸。不过最好的父亲是那些能让妻子觉得自己是最好的母亲的人。
205 Everyone in the world needs someone they can depend on, be they faithful friends, determined advocates, or a loving family. But occasionally in life, the people we thought would always be there for us... leave, and if that happens, it's amazing the length we will go to get them back. 每个人都需要有人依靠，做最忠诚的朋友，做自己的决定激励者，或者组成家庭。但有时我们认为一直会陪伴我们的人――也会离开我们。当这发生的时候把他们找回来的路异常艰难。
206 Yes, every little girl dreams of a big white wedding, but some dreams just don’t come true. 是的，每个小女孩都梦想拥有盛大的白色婚礼，但是有些梦想就是不能成真。
207 Yes, cameras are tools designed to capture images. But in truth they can capture so much more. They can uncover hidden longing of man who should no longer care; they can reveal the extraordinary secrets of the most ordinary marriages. Most amazing of all, cameras can quietly and clearly reveal to us our dreams, dreams we didn't even know we had. 是的，相机是用来捕捉画面的。但实际上他们可以捕捉到更多。它们能揭露不该去关心的男人隐藏着的渴望；它们能揭露平凡婚姻中的不寻常秘密。最有趣的是，相机能无声无息的告诉我们不曾知晓的梦想。
208 In a world filled with darkness, we all need some kind of light, whether it's a great flame that shows us how to win back what we've lost, or a powerful beacon intended to scare away potential monsters, or a few glowing bulbs that reveal to us the hidden truth of our past. We all need something to help us get through the night, even if it's just the tiniest glimmer of hope. 在充满黑暗的世界里，我们都需要一些光明。它可以是指导我们挽回失去的东西的一束火焰；也可以是驱除潜在的恶魔的灯塔；或者是照亮我们隐藏真相的灯泡。我们都需要能让我们撑过黑夜的东西，哪怕是最微弱的希望光芒。
209 It's not always that easy to distinguish the good guys from the bad guys, sinners can surprise you, and the same is true for saints. Why do we try to define people are simply good or simply evil, because no one wants to admit that compassion and cruelty can live side by side in one heart, and that anyone is capable of anything. 分清好人和坏人并不是一件容易的事。罪人总让我们大吃一惊，不过圣人也是一样。为什么总简单的把人定义为好或坏呢？因为没有人愿意承认同情和残忍会肩并肩的呆在一个身体里面；当然，也不会承认他们可以做任何事情。
210 The stories are as old as time itself, the prodigal son who returns home to the father who forgives him, the jealous wife who tricks the husband who trust her, the desperate mother who risks everything for the child who needs her, and the faithless husband who hurts the wife who loves him so deeply. Why do we listen again and again, because these are the stories of family, and once we look past, the fighting, pain, and resentment, we occasionally like to remind ourselves - there's absolutely nothing more important. 故事仍旧是和时间一样古老，浪子回头金不换，慈父宽容抛前嫌；猜疑妻子欺憨夫；绝望母亲护亲子；不忠丈夫伤爱妻。为什么这样的故事一再重演？因为这就是家庭，一旦我们回头看往事，我们都会时不时的提醒自己所有的这些战斗，痛苦，仇恨都比不上和谐的家庭重要。
211 The act itself never varies, but each kiss carries with it a meaning all its own. It can convey a husband's eternal devotion or wife's enormous regret. It can symbolize a mother's growing concern or lover's growing passion. But whatever its meaning, each kiss reflects a basic human need. The need to connect to another human being, this desire is so strong. It's always amazing when some people don't understand it. 亲吻的动作亘古未变，但每个吻的含义各不相同。可以是丈夫的专心付出；可以是妻子的无尽懊悔；也可以代表母亲每日俱增的担忧或情人间的无限激情。但不管怎样，每个吻都表现了最根本的人类需求。与另一个心灵的链接的需求无比强烈。 它令人惊讶无比――特别是当有些人不理解的时候。
212 Illnesses can take on many forms, those of the body are easy to treat, much more difficult, are the hidden maladies that fester in our hearts, the secret addictions that consume our souls. And the diseases we deny which affect our judgment. To survive we need to find that special someone who can heal us... But we can never predict who will have the cure for what ails us or when they'll show up. 疾病有很多形式，生理上的比较容易治疗，困难的是心灵深处的伤痛。不为人知的迷恋侵蚀着我们的灵魂，放弃治疗让我们失去判断。要想生存我们要找到特殊的人来治愈我们…但是我们永远不能预知谁能够拯救我们，或他们什么时候出现。
213 Everyone understands the nature of war, we also understand that victory depends on the cards that we have been dealt. Some when faced with a bloody battle simply give in, but for some surrender is unacceptable, even though they know it would be a fight to the death. 每个人都清楚战争的本性，我们也知道胜利取决于我们打出的那些牌。有些人在面对血战会从容放弃；但是对某些人来说投降是无法接受的，尽管他们清楚面前的是决一死战。
214 The world is filled with unlikely friendships. How did they begin, with one person desperately in need and another willing to lend a helping hand. When such kindness is offered, we are finally able to see the worth of those we have previously written off, and before we've known it, a bond has formed, regardless of whether others can understand it. Yes, unlikely friendships start up everyday, no one understands this more than the lonely, in fact, it's what they count on. 世界上到处都是不太可能的友谊。它们都是由一方迫切的需求和另一方伸出的援助之手开始的。当这样的帮助提供给我们的时候，我们才明白曾经失败的价值。在我们相识之前，一条纽带就已经把我们连接在一起了，不管别人能否理解。的确，不太可能的友谊每天都在发生，没有人能比孤独寂寞的人更了解这一点。事实上，不太可能发生的友谊就是他们的指望。
215 Now and then we all need a little help, so we ask for small favors. But it's always best to be wary of those eager to come to our rescue. Because even the smallest of favors carries a price tag. Yes, everyone has an agenda, no matter what they may tell us...and in those rare instances where there is no ulterior motive, we're so taking aback that we may fail to recognize the truth - that a loving friend has just done us an enormous favor. 偶尔我们总会需要帮助，所以我们请别人帮点小忙。不过对那些急切想拯救我们的人最好要带着一颗机警的心。因为哪怕是最小的恩惠都是有价格的。是的，每个人心里都有一本帐，不管他们告诉我们什么。别有用心的人太多了，像好朋友帮了大忙这样的情况真是少之又少。我们过分的警觉导致我们失去了对真相的判断力。
216 This is how Bree Van De Kamp finally came to change her weekly routine, she still cleaned on Tuesdays, paid her bills on Wednesdays, and did her laundries on Thursdays, but her Fridays were now reserved for a meeting, a special meeting where she stood in front of people she didn’t know, and said things she didn’t believe, and afterwards Bree would come home and reward herself on the completion of another successful week. 这就是Bree Van De Kamp如何最终改变了自己的每周安排，她仍然在周二打扫卫生；在周三付帐单；在周四洗衣服，但每个周五她要参加一个特别会议，在会议上她站在一群陌生人面前说她自己都不相信的话，然后回到家中犒劳自己，祝贺完满成功的一周。
217 At that precise moment as Dr Hanson Mills was cutting yet another umbilical cord, other ties were being severed all over town, like the one between a child and a mother who didn't want him to grow up so quickly, or the one between a case of fine wine and a housewife who hadn't wanted to admit she had a problem, or the one between a women and the boyfriend who couldn't forgive her betrayal. The choice to separate from what we love is painful; the only thing worse is when someone we've trusted makes the choice for us. 就在Hanson Mills医生切断另一根脐带的时候，小镇上其他的联系也被切断了。像一个母亲和儿子之间，母亲不想孩子那么快就长大；一箱好酒和主妇之间的关系，主妇不想承认她酗酒；或是一个女人和男友之间的关系，男友不能原谅她的背叛。选择离开我们的爱是痛苦的，更糟糕的是我们信任的人让我们做这样的选择。
218 Temptation comes to all of us, whether or not we succumb depends on our ability to recognize its disguise, sometimes it arrives in a form of an old flame, flickering back to life, or a new friend who could end up being so much more, or a young child who wakens feelings we didn't know we had. And so we give in to temptation all the while knowing come morning, we'll have to suffer the consequences. 每个人都会受到诱惑，我们是否屈服与诱惑决定于我们识破其伪装的能力。有时它们以闪回的火花形式出现；有时是一个意义深远的新朋友；有时是一个触发我们不曾有过的感觉的婴儿。不过如果我们屈服于诱惑，那么第二天我们必须承担后果。
219 We've all done something in our lives us we are ashamed of, some of us have fallen for the wrong man, some have let go of the right women, there're those who have humiliated their parents and those who have failed their children. Yes, we've all made mistakes that diminish us and those we love. But there is redemption if we try to learn from those mistakes and grow. 我们都做过一些自己都感到惭愧的事。有些人爱错了人，有些人错过了爱；有些孩子使父母丢脸，也有些家长让孩子失望。是的，我们都犯过错使我们爱的人离我们而去。但如果我们试着从这些错误中吸取教训并成长，就还有挽回的机会。
220 There's is a prayer intended to give strength to people faced with circumstances they don't want to accept. The power of the prayer comes from its insight into human nature. Because so many of us rage against the hand that life has dealt us; Because so many of us are cowardly, and afraid to stand up for what is right; Because so many of us give in to despair, when faced with an impossible choice. The good news for those who utter these words is that god will hear you and answer your prayer. The bad news is that sometimes the answer is no. 祈祷赐给我们力量，让我们能够面对不愿接受的事实。祈祷的力量来自它对人性的洞察力；因为太多的人对我们的生活充满愤怒；因为太多的人过于懦弱，不敢拍案而起；因为太多的人无法选择的时候，选择对绝望妥协。好消息是敢于把话说出口的人，上帝会听到你的祈祷并回答你。坏消息是有的时候上帝的答案是否定的。
221 When the truth is ugly, people try to keep it hidden, because they know if revealed, the damage it will do. So they conceal it within sturdy walls, or they place it behind closed doors, or they obscure it with clever disguises, but truth, no matter how ugly, always emerges, and someone we care about always ends up getting hurt, and someone else will revel in their pain, and that's the ugliest truth of all. 当真相很丑陋的时候，人们想法设法来掩盖它。因为他们知道如果被发现的话后果相当严重。所以他们用严实的墙来遮蔽它；或把真相关在紧闭的门后；或用聪明的伪装使它们变得朦胧。但不管真相多么丑陋它们总会浮现，那些我们关心的人最后还是会受到伤害，而另外一些人却为他们的痛苦而快乐，这才是最丑陋的事实。
222 It's a shocking moment for each of us that moment we realize we are all alone in this world. The family we take for granted could one day abandon us; the husband we trust so implicitly might betray us; the daughter we love so deeply perhaps won't return to us. And then we could end up all by ourselves. 对每个人来说意识到自己孤独的活在世上都是震惊无比的。我们认为理所当然的家庭会抛弃我们；我们深信无比的丈夫也可能背叛我们；我们深深爱着的女儿也许不再回到我们的身边。那时我们只能一个人孤独的走到生命的尽头。
223 This is the street where I used to live, and these were the people with whom I shared my life. I met them the day they moved in, and I saw what they brought with them - beautiful dreams for the future and quiet hopes for a better life not just for themselves, but for their children, too. If I could, would I tell them what lies ahead? Would I warn them of the sorrow and betrayal that lie in store? No, from where I stand now, I see enough of the road to understand how it must be traveled. The trick is to keep moving forward to let go of the fear and the regret that slow us down and keep us from enjoying a journey that will be over too soon. Yes, there will be unexpected bends in the road, shocking surprises we didn't see coming, but that's really the point, don't you think? 这就是我曾经生活的街道，我和这些人一起分享过生活。我在他们搬来那天起认识的他们，我看到他们带来的――对美好未来的憧憬；为更好生活的向往，为自己更为了孩子。如果我可以，我会告诉他们前路是什么样的吗？我会警告他们未来的悲伤和背叛吗？不会，站在我的位子我自然明白路应该怎样走。秘诀就是放下拖慢我们脚步的艰难困苦，勇往直前的享受这快乐而又短暂的人生旅途。
301 Every storm brings with it hope that somehow by morning, everything will be made clean again. And even the most troubling stains will have disappeared. Like the doubts over his innocence, or the consequence of his mistake, like the scars of his betrayal,or the memory of his kiss.So we wait for the storm to pass hoping for the best, even though we know in our hearts some stains are so indelible, nothing can wash them away. 每随风暴而来的是希望——不论如何，到了早晨，一切都会变干净，即使最顽固的污点也会消失。像对清白的疑惑，错误的结果，背叛的创伤，亲吻的记忆。我们等待着风暴退却，期待着雨过天睛。即使我们清楚在心中, 有些污点是如此顽固，没有什么能将它们清除。
302 Have you met the perfect couple? The two soul mates whose love never dies? The two lovers whose relationship is never threatened.The husband and wife who trust each other completely. If you haven't met the perfect couple, let me introduce you.They stand atop a layer of butter cream frosting. The secret of their success? Well, for starters, they don't have to look at each other. 你有没有遇到过完美的一对，精神伴侣，他们的爱永远不死；这对恋人，他们的爱情从没受到过威胁；丈夫和妻子，完完全全信任对方？如果你没有遇见过这样的一对眷侣，让我来给你介绍这么一对：他们是站在奶油冰淇淋上的。他们成功的秘诀？——他们从来不正视对方
303 We all carry something with us. Of course, it's nice if we travel with some one who can help lighten the load. But usually, it's easier to just drop what we've been carrying so we can get home that much sooner. Assuming, of course, there will be someone there to greet us when we arrive. Why do we clutch at this baggage, even when we're desperate to move on? Because we all know there's a chance we might let go too soon. 我们都在负重前行。当然，能结伴而行会很幸福, 有人帮助分担重负。但通常抛掉负担会更简单。这样我们就能早日归家。设想着，当然,有人会在家迎接我们归来。为什么有人仍然抓住行李不放，即使我们不顾一切的向前看。因为我们都知道，有的机会也许我们放弃的太快。
304 We all have our reasons for rewriting history.Sometimes we need to provide ourselves alibis. Sometimes we wanna hurt someone who has hurt us, and then there are times we just wanna spare ourselves embarrassment. Of course, there are some who feel that to rewrite history is just another way to lie. But what is history anyway....But a set of lies agree depend? 我们都有要改写历史的原因。有时候我们需要给自己找一些托辞。有时我们想要伤害那些曾经伤害过我们的人, 有时我们只是不想自己困窘难堪。当然，有时改写历史只是另一种方式去说谎。但是，历史究竟是什么呢。。。。难道只是一系列的谎言吗？
305 Sabotage, everyone is capable of it. But some go about it more cruelness than the others. 阴谋破坏，每个人都能做，但有些人可以做得更加冷酷。
Like the ones who create vengeance… 像那些渴望复仇的人。。。 Or the ones who hunger for love. 像那些寻觅爱情的人。。。
Or the ones who were determined to burn bridges. 像那些决定一刀两断的人。。。
And then there are those who simply wants something… 也有些人的愿望简单而直接。。。
Something that belongs to someone else 有时候, 那属于其他人。
306 There is a place in St. Timothy church where sinners go to confess their sins. St.Timothy 教堂有处罪人忏悔的地方 And once they are done, they expect absolution 当他们忏悔完，都期待能得到宽恕
But the truth is, not all confessions are worthy of such forgiveness. 但事实上，不是所有忏悔都值得被原谅。
Most who unveil his agendas deserve the condemnation they receive. 大多数人，秘密计划败露了,得到应有的谴责。
Most who disclose revengeful motives marry the punishment that follows. 大多数人, 报复动机暴露了,得到随之而来的惩罚
Only the truly repentant at any right at all expect a second chance. 只有真心悔过，才有权利获得第二次机会。
Were just why it's best to think twice before you confess. 这就是为什么最好在你忏悔前先三思而后行…
Especially if you don’t know what it is you're confessing to. 尤其是如果你不知道你在忏悔什么
307 Sweetie, we can't prevent what can't predict. 亲爱的，我们不能预防我们所不能预知的
Isn't there anything I could do? 有什么是我能做的么？
Yes, yes. You can enjoy this beautiful day. 你可以享受这美丽的一天。
We get so few of them. 我们很少有这样的一天
308 There are so many things we wish we could tell the young 有太多的事情我们想要告诉孩子们
We'd like to persuade them not to grow up so fast 我们想说服他们，不要这么快就长大。
But they won't listen. 但他们听不进去。
We want to tell them the beauty face but they refuse to believe it. 我们想告诉他们，花容总有凋谢的一天，但他们拒绝相信。 We worn them that their actions will have consequences, but still they defy us. 我们警告他们，他们的所作所为会有后果，但他们仍然不予理睬。
Suddenly the young can began to understand the world is a dangerous place. 终有一天，孩子们会意识到这个世界是危险的
So it’s up to us to do anything we can to protect them 所以我们要做的就是，尽一切可能来保护他们
Absolutely anything 不惜一切代价。
309 Dangerous men walk among us. 危险的人在我们之中潜伏。
And we can’t always be sure who they are or what secret they hide. 我们不是总能肯定他们是谁，或者他们隐藏着怎样的秘密。 But once our suspicious are confirmed 但是最可怕的疑虑得到证实。
We can take action. 我们就可以采取行动。
Once their agenda were revealed 一旦他们的行事议程被揭露。
We can take steps to protect ourselves and those we love. 我们就能采取措施保护自己和我们爱的人。
Yes, dangerous men can cause great harm 是的，危险的人会造成巨大的伤害。
But sometimes the greatest dangerous they pose is to themselves. 但是人有时候他们所做有最危险的事, 是对他们自己做的。
310 There's a reason people can't wait for Christmas, and it has little to do with family reunions. 人们等不及过圣诞节的理由和家人团聚没有任何关系。
Or curling up with a cup of eggnog. 或是为了蜷缩着喝一杯蛋酒。
with that unexpected kiss beneath the mistletoe. 又或是槲寄生下那个意料的吻。
or receiving a present from a special someone. 或是收到某个特殊的人送来的礼物。
no, people look forward to Christmas. 不是的，人们期待圣诞节的到来。
because they know, it's a time for miracles. 因为他们知道，是时候...出现奇迹了...
312 It's a dangerous world. So we all look for protection.And whether we find it in the arms of our mother,or at the end of a jagged blade, or in the kiss of our sweetheart, or at the end of a barrel. We do what we have to to feel safe. Because we know somewhere in the world there are those who would do us harm. 这个世界危机四伏，所以我们都会寻求保护。不管是妈妈那温暖的臂弯，还是一把锯齿刀片，不管是心爱妻子的一个轻吻，还是一把手枪。为了安全感，我们不得不有所行动。因为我们知道世界上的某个地方，有想伤害我们的人。
313 Yes, it can happen so quickly. Life as we know it can change in the blink of an eye.Unlikely friendships can blossom. Important careers can be tossed aside. A long-lost hope can be rekindled.Still, we should be grateful for whatever changes life throws at us, because all too soon the day will come when there are no changes left. 是的，世事瞬息万变。转眼之间，面目全非。不可能的友谊可以开花结果，重要的事业可以放置一边，灰飞烟灭的希望可以重新点燃。不论如何，我们仍然要感激生活的改变，因为不久末日来临，就不在有任何改变了。
314 Recapturing the past is a tricky business. While most memories are simply souvenirs of a happier time, others can be quite deadly. 回顾过去不是件容易事，其中大部分是关于快乐时光的记忆，也有的可能是致命的。
317 In every housewife's closet, there's an article of clothing that tells you more about its owner than she would want you to know. It might be a T-shirt that she despises but wears without complaint. Perhaps it's some lingerie, she knows isn't hers, but refuses to discuss... Or a dress she once loved, that she can no longer bear to look at this. You can learn a lot about women from what they choose to wear. You can learn even more by what they choose to take off, and who they take it off for. 每个主妇的衣橱里，满满的都是关于着装的文章，记载着主人很多不为人知的细节。也许是一件T恤，她很不喜欢，却毫无怨言的穿上；也许是一件内衣，她明知不是自己的，却拒绝提起；也许是一件她曾经非常喜欢的长裙，可如今却再也不想看见。是的，女人决定穿什么，会让你知晓很多，但是如果知道她愿意褪去什么，为谁褪去，你会更加了解她的。
318 It's so easy to spot the lonely ones.They're the people who tell stories to their plants, and whisper secrets to their pets, and have arguments with their TV, and the loneliest of all are the ones who talk to people who are no longer there. 孤单的身影总是随处可见。他们向自己的盆栽倾诉心事，向自己的宠物分享秘密，和自己的电视机争吵不休，但最孤单的则是这样一类人，他们向亡者倾诉。 Passion. It's a force so potent we still remember it long after it's faded away. A drive so alluring it can push us to the arms of unexpected lovers. A sensation so overwhelming it can knock down walls we built to protect our hearts. A feeling so intense it resurfaces even though we try so hard to keep it buried. Yes, of all emotions, passion is the one that gives us a reason to live and an excuse to commit all sorts of crimes. 激情，就算它在逝去很久以后，仍是让人如此难以忘记。它是如此强烈的诱惑，把我们推到意想不到的爱人怀中；它是无法抗拒的感情，击垮了我们修筑起来的保护心灵的高墙；它是那尽管我们如此努力的埋藏，却仍浮出水面的炙热情感。是的，在所有的情绪中，激情给了我们生活下去的理由，却也给我们了犯下各种罪刑的借口。
319 Power, it's the type of thing most people don't think about, until it's taken a way. Whether it's the political power of the many,or a lover's influence over just one. We all want some sort of power in our lives, if only to give ourselves choices. Yes, to be without choices, to feel utterly powerless, well...it's a lot...like being alone...in the dark. 能量，多数人平日里毫不在意，直到有一天猝然消逝才会察觉。不论是大众的政治权力，还是恋人间亲亲我我的影响。人生中我们都需要某种能量，哪怕只是给我们一些选择。是的，假如连选择都没有，假如连一丝能量都没有，那么在黑暗中，蔓延开来的，就是无边无际的孤独。
320 Gossip--it's just a harmless form of recreation. It's careless talk that deals in polite fiction. It's nasty speculation that's based on not-so-polite fact. Hpw do we protect ourselves from the venomous sting pf such idle goddip?The best way is to just tell the truth .
321 Anyone can end up a victim...injured by the actions of others .But whether the damage is inficted by a cunning ex-wife...or a blow delivered by the object of our affection ...the time comes when we must pick ourselves up and continue on our journey .And if we can't ,then all we can pray for ...is rescue . 人人都会末路逢凶，被他人所伤。但无论是被狡猾的前妻算计，还是被我们心仪的对象打击，我们都要站起来，收拾行囊，我们都要站起来，继续旅程。如果我们做不到，那就只有祈求，被救赎。
322 From the moment we wake up in the morning till our head hits the pillow at night our lives are filled with questions . Most are easily answered and soon forfotten ,but some questions are much harderto ask because we're so afraid of the answer .Will I be around to watch my children grow up ?Am i making mistake by marrying this man?Could he ever truly love me ?And what happens when we ask ourself the hard question and get the answerwe'd been hoping for ?Well,that's when happiness begins. 从我们清晨醒来，到我们夜晚入睡，我们的生活充满了疑问。一些容易回答，也容易被忘记；有些问题却难以提出，因为我们害怕知道答案--我能否或者看到孩子们长大？我是否嫁对了人？他是否会真心爱我？以及，当我们终于开口问了问题，也得到了我们希望得到的答案，又会发生什么事情？幸福的生活将从此开始。
323 Family--there is nothing more important. They're the ones who show up when we're in trouble,the ones who push us to suceed,the ones who help keep our secrets .But what of those who have no family to rely on ?What happens to those poor souls...who have no loved ones to help them in their hour of need?Well....most learn to walk life's road by themselves ,But a sad few of us...simply...stop trying . 家人，这世上最珍贵的风景，困难时他们突然出现；有意无意时他们助推成功；守密时他们相依为伴。若无这方风景依仗，又将何去何从？那些孤寂的灵魂去往何方？渴求时却没有爱人肩膀，于是只能学者自己走完人生路，但总有可悲的人啊，却连尝试，都要放弃。 -
How Much Do You Love Me?
2008-04-02 21:11:42
Jeremy slurped down the last of his milk from the bottom of his cereal bowl. He wiped his mouth on his sleeve and jumped down from the table. "Mommy, how much do you love me?" he asked.
杰瑞米啧啧地把他碗底里最后一滴牛奶喝净，嘴巴往袖子上一抹，然后从桌子上跳下来，就问道：“妈妈，你爱我有多深？”
"I love you more than the tallest tree and taller," she answered.
“我对你的爱比那最高的树还要多，还要高，”妈妈回答道。
"Oh," said Jeremy, and he ran out to play. While outside, he searched for the tallest tree. He looked everywhere but couldn't find a single tree.
“哦，” 杰瑞米说，就跑出去玩了。在外面他就寻找最高的树，他把所有的地方都看过了就是不能找到一棵最高的树。
There were some scraggly bushes, but that was all. I think I'll swing instead, he thought. He started to swing, pumping his legs and arms as hard and fast as he could. Soon, Jeremy heard the screen door slam. His mommy was headed toward the clothesline with a basket of wet clothes. Jeremy slowed down his pumping and jumped off the swing. He ran toward his mother.
那里只有有蓬乱的灌木。还不如去荡秋千呢，他想道。他看着秋千，使劲地来回荡他的胳膊和腿。一会，杰瑞米听到屏风砰地一声被关上。妈妈提着一篮子湿衣服，朝晾衣绳这边走来。杰瑞米放慢他荡秋千的速度，从秋千上跳下来，跑到妈妈面前。
"Mommy," Jeremy asked. "How much do you love me?"
“妈妈，” 杰瑞米问道。“你爱我有多深？”
"I love you more than the highest mountain and higher," she answered.
“我爱你比最高的山还多还高，” 妈妈回答道。
Jeremy smiled and skipped upstairs to look out the window to find the highest mountain. But he didn't see any mountains at all, just houses that didn't seem very high at all.
杰瑞米笑了笑，蹦蹦跳跳地跑到楼上，朝窗户外面望去，寻找最高的山脉。可是，他连一个山也没有看见，只不过是些看上去不很高的房屋而已。
During dinner, Jeremy asked once again, "How much do you love me?"
吃晚饭的时候，杰瑞米又问：“你爱我有多深？”
"I love you more than the brightest star and brighter," answered his mother.
“我对你的爱比最亮的星星还要多，还要亮，”妈妈说。
Jeremy grinned as he sipped his last sip of milk.
杰瑞米喝完最后一滴牛奶，咧嘴一笑。
After his bath, Jeremy searched the night sky for the brightest star. But it was raining, and there weren't any stars to be seen. There was a sudden flash of lightning, and that startled him.
杰瑞米洗过澡后，向夜空望去，寻找那一颗最亮的星星。可是，天正下雨，根本看不见一颗星星。突然，有一道闪电一亮，把他吓了一跳。
Jeremy was quiet as his mother tucked him in that evening. "What's wrong?" his mother asked. "You haven't asked a single question since dinner."
晚上，杰瑞米很安静，妈妈把他放下睡觉。“怎么了？”妈妈说。“晚饭后你一个问题都没有问。”
"Mother," he began, "I looked outside for the tallest tree but all I saw were scraggly bushes. I looked for the highest mountain but all I could find were short houses; and I tried to find the brightest star, but all I could see was a scary bolt of lightning. If that's all that you love me, I don't think you love me at all."
“妈妈，”杰瑞米开始说道，“我去面寻找最高的树，但只看见蓬乱的灌木；寻找最高的山，可只看到矮小的房屋；寻找最亮的星星，可我看见的只有一道吓人的闪电。如果那就是你对我的爱，我想你根本都不爱我。”
Jeremy's mother stroked his blond hair as she gently kissed him on the cheek. "You sleep well tonight. Tomorrow I will show you how much I love you."
妈妈抚摸着杰瑞米金色的头发，轻轻地吻着他的脸颊。“今晚好好睡，明天我会告诉你我有多爱你的。”
The next day, Jeremy and his mom packed a picnic lunch. They got into the car and drove and drove and drove. Soon they came upon a big sign.
第二天，杰瑞米和妈妈准备了一顿野餐午饭。他们上到车里，驱车前行……没过一会，他们就遇见了一个大大的标识。
"What does that sign say, Mommy?" Jeremy asked.
“标识上写的什么，妈妈？” 杰瑞米问道。
"It says REDWOOD NATIONAL PARK," she answered.
“写的是红木国家公园，”妈妈说。
"Wow!" hollered Jeremy as he raced among the tallest trees he had ever seen.
“哇！”杰瑞米冲到他所见到的最高的树林里面大声的喊道。
"These trees can almost touch the sky. You must really love me a lot." All day long, they played alongside the giant trees and ate their picnic lunch.
“这些树木几乎快高到天边了。你一定是真的非常爱我。” 一整天，他们都在那些大树底下玩耍，享用着他们的野餐午饭。
As night approached, Jeremy and his mom drove home a different way than Jeremy could ever remember going before. They drove a long, long time. When the sky was almost all dark, they came to a stop.
黄昏时分，杰瑞米和妈妈开车回家走了另一条路，这条路杰瑞米从前来过可却不记得了。他们开了好长时间，天都要快黑的时候，他们来到一个停车站。
"Let's get out here a moment," Jeremy's mom said. "I want to show you how much I love you."
“我们出来在这里待会吧，”妈妈说。“我想告诉你我有多爱你。”
Jeremy's eyes widened as he looked down at the city lights.
杰瑞米的眼睛睁得很大，眺望这个城市的灯光。
"Where are we?" he asked.
“我们现在哪？”杰瑞米问。
"We are on top of the highest mountain. This is how much I love you. Look up there," his mommy said, pointing her hand towards the night sky. "Can you find the brightest star?"
“我们现在最高的山顶上，这就是我有多爱你。向那里望，”妈妈说，她的手指向夜空。“你能找到最亮的星星吗？”
The sky was full of stars dancing and twinkling. They were so bright and so close that Jeremy felt as if he could reach up and grab one.
夜空繁星点点，璀璨闪烁。星星很亮很近，杰瑞米感觉伸手都能够到抓住一颗。
"Mommy, they are all so bright. I could never find the brightest one."
“妈妈，它们都很亮，我都不能找到哪个最亮了。”
Jeremy slept on the way back to the city. He woke again while his mother was tucking him into bed. Quickly, while she was above him, he tried to think of something taller than the tallest tree, bigger than the biggest mountain, and brighter than the brightest star. He thought and thought, but it was hard. He had slept through his usual bedtime snack, and his rumbling tummy sort of distracted him. Finally, Jeremy looked at his mother with half-opened eyes and quietly whispered, "I love you, Mommy. I love you more than the tallest tree, more than the biggest mountain, and more than the brightest star. In fact, I love you more than the tastiest peanut butter and jelly sandwich!"
在回去的路上，杰瑞米睡着了，妈妈把他放进被窝里时他醒了。瞬间，当妈妈在他上面的时候，他使劲想什么比最高的树还高，比最大的山还大，比最亮的星星还亮，但还是没有想出来。他还没有吃睡前小点心就睡着了，隆隆响的肚子有点分散他的心思。最后，杰瑞米半睁着眼睛看者妈妈，轻轻地在耳边说：“我爱你，妈妈。我爱你比那最高的树还要多，比最大的山还要多，比最亮的星星还要多。其实，我爱你比那最好吃的花生酱和水果三明治还要多！”
His mother laughed, and Jeremy smiled and quickly fell to sleep.
妈妈笑了，杰瑞米笑了，很快一会就睡着了。 -
《B What U Wanna B 》(music)
2008-03-16 13:06:50
《B What U Wanna B 》
Darin Zanyardoctor, actor, lawyer or a singer
why not president, be a dreamer
you can be just the one you wanna be
police man, fire fighter or a post man
why not something like your old man
you can be just the one you wanna be
driver, actor, lawyer or a singer
why not president, be a dreamer
you can be just the one you wanna be
i know that we all got one thing
that we all share together
we got that one nice dream
we live for
you never know what life could bring
coz nothing last for ever
just hold on to the team
you play for
i know you could reach the top
make sure that you won"t stop
be the one that you wanna be
now sing this with me
we may have different ways to think
but it doesnt really matter
we all caught up in the steam
of this life
focus on every little thing
that’s what does really matter
luxury cars and bling
thats not real life
i know you could reach the top
make sure that you won’t stop
be the one that you wanna be
now sing this with me
last year i used to dream about this day
now i’m here i’m singing for you
i hope i could inspire you
coz i’ve got all the love, coz i’ve got all love for you -
a blue day
2008-03-02 12:32:06
sunny and warmly today,you can feel that spring is coming.people always have a good mood at this time.but to me,still a blue day.
we haven't communicated for two months,maybe we all know that's the best way to us.yesterday,one of my best friends told me sth about her,though i pretended i didn't care her anymore,i knew i lied.actually i miss her day and night,sometimes just cannot help to crying.these days,i can't rise to the occasion,it is so hard to me,but i know i must accept all of things since we made this decision.maybe only time can heal everything.
and i hope she is better.
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How to Get Over Your First Love
2008-02-20 20:01:18
Your Ex
1.Cut off all communication with your ex. Harsh, but it's the only thing that works. You probably feel like you're losing the best friend you ever had. It might hurt at first, but it will get better. The only person who truly understood you. But you cannot be friends while you attempt to get over each other.
2.Do not hook up with your ex. You will start right back at square one and all the work you did trying to get over them will be wasted.
3.You will probably only remember what you love about your ex, and your happiest memories together. Recall why you broke up, what you hated about him/her, and what you could never agree on. If they cheated on you, stop justifying it and realize you can find someone who loves you and would never be unfaithful.
4.Realize that just because this relationship is over, it doesn't mean that you'll never find love again. Ask your friends, your parents, your great-aunt Susan how they got over their first loves. Many people will remember how hard it was to get over their first love, but admit that they found greater loves in their lifetime.
Friends and Family
1.Don't try to get through this alone. Your friends are very important. They will help you survive by listening to you and offering advice. If you forgot about them while you were with your boy/girlfriend ask if you can be forgiven. If they really were true friends they will forgive you and want to help you get over it. Try to avoid friends who are very close with your ex, they are bound to talk about him/her and bring you down inadvertently.
2.Talk and see your friends, and family more. If you make your world bigger, then s/he will become less important.
3.Be open and honest about how you are feeling. Don't pretend to yourself, or others, that you are okay if you're not. Also realize that you are allowed to be okay. You do not have to feel sad all the time, or at all. Talk to people instead of just holding it in and being moody. Other people can support you, if they actually know what is going on.
4.Remember there are other people that care. Even if it doesn't always feel that way, there are. There are people around you that understands, and will help.
5.Do not ask your friends if they have seen your ex. Do not ask how s/he is; you do not want to know.
You
1.Cry. It's okay to cry. Just let it all out. You will feel much better after you do.
2.Use your breakup as an opportunity to become the person you have always wanted to be. Take on a daunting goal such as learning a new language, instrument, or skill. There has never been a better time to set these goals in motion, and now you have lots more time to do it!
3.Fill up your MP3 player with the saddest love songs you can think of. Sad songs work wonders because you realize there are actually people out there more miserable than you. Or you may also want to try happy songs instead. Try some songs that were written to remind you that you're not the only one not having any fun and that you need to work to be happy again. Music will heal you, just give it time.
4.Do anything you can to make yourself feel desirable. Get a haircut or highlights. Go to the gym. Buy a new outfit. Dress up and dance in front of your mirror to club music. Remember all the times s/he told you that you are the most beautiful person in the universe, convince yourself that it is indeed true, and that someone else will appreciate you the way s/he once did.
5.Endure the pain and loneliness bravely. With time, the pain will heal. Are you a strong person who can get through this or a weak one that will wither from one failed relationship? Don't succumb to weakness. Retain your pride and hold your head up. There's nothing better than that.
Tips
- Don't be so naive as to believe that you will never love anyone as much as your first love. Most first loves and heartbreaks occur around in your teens or early 20s. You still have most of your life ahead of you to find the love of your life.
- With maturity, your capacity to love another human being grows. Be grateful for the experience of your first love.
- You will certainly be able to give your 100% again. Get that thought out of your mind.
- Remember that getting your heart broken for the first time is a fact of life.
- Recognize that you have the power of choice in your life.
- Always remember, it's all in your head. This feeling is just a picture you have created in your head of the way you want things to be. Once you let that go, you'll be fine.
- Never ever try getting back with your ex it will only hurt you in the long run.
- Talk more!(and not necessarily about your ex) It's good to listen to others and what they have to say, but if you can talk more you'll find yourself truely getting your mind off of her/him for the time being.
- If it has been a very long time since the breakup and it's either not going away or getting worse and worse, you should probably seek help.
- If you feel suicidal, seek help. Nobody in your life should bother you to that point. So you really need to get help if you are.
- Don't tell him/her that you still love them. Tell yourself that you, infact, don't love them anymore.
- Don't pretend like you are still together and don't think of yourselves as a couple. If people refer to him/her as your boy/girlfriend, then correct them. Even if you know that you're no longer together, saying it out loud will get the message accross more strongly, and help you move on quicker!
Warnings
- Don't drink alcohol or get addicted to drugs to help get rid of your problems. It won't help in the long run, and it might end up making things worse.
- After you hit the six month mark, friends will start snapping at you to just get over it. At this point you must stop feeling so sorry for yourself or you will begin to lose friends.
- Stop the "Woe Is Me" stuff. It gets old so fast. If you're going to mope and feel miserable, at least have the intelligence to realize that you are not the only one in the world who has had their heart broken. Being aware of that, mope away, but try not to let it consume your entire day. This kind of thing makes you seem pathetic.
- Avoid statements like "I'll never get over him/her." They just make you sound stupid and short-sighted.
- Don't keep running back, although it seems like it will make things better, its only temporary. If you keep running back it makes it just that much worst in the end. Seriously, end it. Do not go back.
- Don't resort to "tracking down" your ex's every movement. Having mutual friends tell you everything they're doing, how great they are, who they're dating, and how they don't talk about you will only make you feel worse. You don't need to know. You simply need to let it be. Remember - they will figure out what you're trying to do and you will look like the crazy one who's still not over it. Don't give them that satisfaction when you will be fine without it. This extends to using the internet to track down your ex's activities.
- Don't stop doing things/watching things/listening to things etc. just because it will remind you of your ex. Such is life. You will only be limiting your life even more, and doing yourself damage. Not him/her.
- Don't attempt any suicidal moves it'll only hurt you and your family. It hurts now ,but you'll learn to move on.
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To Read When You’re Alone
2008-10-08 21:10:41
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因为爱过，所以不会成敌人；因为伤过，所以不会做朋友
2008-08-30 19:31:14
如果，前世的五百次回眸才换来今生的擦肩而过，那想来已经很幸福了――其实，擦肩而过，也是一种很深的缘分。佛说：五百次的回眸才能换来今生的擦肩而过。可以一秒钟遇到一个人，一分钟认识一个人，一个小时喜欢上一个人，一天时间爱上一个人，但是却要用一辈子去忘记一个人。
当她不爱你的时候，无论过去她是否爱过还是后来忘了，又或者是从未爱过，当你无法再成为她心里的那个人的时候，她的心便不会记得你。请不要在你不开心时去打搅她，她那儿绝对不是你此刻应该的去处。请不要与她讲你的琐事，她无暇更是没有兴趣去了解你、你的生活。即使讲了，她也很快会忘记的。没有爱，你注定挤不进她的生命。请不要在她的面前流眼泪，她无法给予你照顾和关心，至多只是一点同情。只有爱你的人，才会真正的去珍惜你，而不是，旁观的同情和怜悯。
当她不爱你的时候，你的爱便是她的负担。请不要去计算自己的付出，不要希望有什么回报。你用心，她无心，爱着不爱自己的人，本身便是没有回报的。不要计较对与错，这样会快乐些。请不要失去自信，因为爱一个人，并非她的优秀，而只是一种感觉。她让你有这样的感觉，于是你爱她。同样，她不爱你，也并非你不优秀。优秀，不是爱的理由。还有那么多爱自己的人，淡淡地微笑一下，也是异样甜美的。
当她不爱你的时候，也一定要祝福她。有了爱，便不该有恨，因为曾经有爱，有爱的日子里是快乐的，有缘在一起也是快乐，有过快乐有过爱，就不会再有恨。她失去的是一个爱她的人，而你失去了一个不爱你的人，却得到了一个重新生活、重新去爱的机会。请你深深呼吸，一生的路上，铺满了爱的花蕾，总有那么一朵属于你，花儿虽多，却没有重复的一朵，这是生生世世早已经注定的。
当她不爱你的时候，就是你从他生活中消失的时候，第一时间离开她，骄傲地过属于自己的生活。同时，你也希望她能幸福快乐，找到属于她的未来。轻轻拥抱一下回忆里的温暖，轻柔地凝视凋谢的温柔。无论结果怎样都会破坏了曾经的美感。干干净净地离开，也许若干年后的某个午后，阳光下的她眯起双眼会记起某个美好的瞬间，会心一笑。种种怀念，值了。
爱不一定要永远。曾经拥有的也许会是你一生最美好的回忆。因为爱过，所以不会成敌人；因为伤过，所以不会做朋友；只能是最熟悉的陌生人。爱过知情重，醉过知酒浓。关于爱的记忆，应该好好收藏，只是今后的幸福，要各自去寻找。
爱是一种感觉，不爱也是一种感觉，而往往难以抉择的是心中的感觉到底是爱还是不爱。原来握在手里的，不一定就是你们真正拥有的；你们所拥有的，也不一定就是你们真正铭刻在心的。人生很多时候需要自觉的放弃，因为拥有的时候，你们也许正在失去，而放弃的时候，你们也许又在重新获得。
明白的人懂得放弃，真情的人懂得牺牲，幸福的人懂得超脱。对不爱自己的人，最需要的是理解、放弃和祝福。过多的自作多情是在乞求对方的施舍。爱与被爱，都是让人幸福的事情。不要让这些变成痛苦。既然你们已经经历了，多年以后，偶尔想起，希望都是美好的回忆。活的自信些，开心些，把最美的微笑留给伤你最深的人，聪明的人知道自己要快乐。 -
10 Ways We Hurt Our Romantic Relationships
2008-08-26 21:42:52
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The Importance of Being Honest
2008-06-01 15:12:52
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Time is like a river！（转）
2008-06-01 14:37:50
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A goodbye kiss
2008-05-31 20:21:31
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Today,I Choose...
2008-05-27 22:18:01
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Happy mother's day
2008-05-11 17:37:37
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Mama
2008-05-05 20:05:29
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what shoud i do?
2008-05-02 10:13:12
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百年电影经典名句
2008-04-27 20:14:49
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dream
2008-04-22 21:16:56
everybody has his own dream,so do i,but it is my secret that i never tell.why,maybe one reason is that i haven't enough confidence, i am afraid the jeer if my dream can't come true,you know some people like do it.the other reason is that i cann't persevere in doing sth,at the same time,i think it is my biggest disadvantage,although i know the truth that if you want to be the best,you should try you best.actually i didn't try my best most times,sometimes i really hope that i can meet my Mrs Right earlier that she can help me.but life doesn't always go my way,i am single now.
people around me always said that i have a high sight,i don't admit it before.but what has happened on me is so crule,so real.it seems there is a voice around my ears,"don't set your sights too high,just come back to the real world."face to this,i really want to lower my head sometimes,but stronger is what i need.i know. -
what is the purpose of so much busy life?
2008-04-18 19:15:32
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Today, i weeped
2008-04-17 20:28:06
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Please Forgive Me
2008-04-13 19:12:29
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转《绝望的主妇》每集结束语整理，超级经典！
2008-04-04 20:16:31
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How Much Do You Love Me?
2008-04-02 21:11:42
Jeremy slurped down the last of his milk from the bottom of his cereal bowl. He wiped his mouth on his sleeve and jumped down from the table. "Mommy, how much do you love me?" he asked.
杰瑞米啧啧地把他碗底里最后一滴牛奶喝净，嘴巴往袖子上一抹，然后从桌子上跳下来，就问道：“妈妈，你爱我有多深？”
"I love you more than the tallest tree and taller," she answered.
“我对你的爱比那最高的树还要多，还要高，”妈妈回答道。
"Oh," said Jeremy, and he ran out to play. While outside, he searched for the tallest tree. He looked everywhere but couldn't find a single tree.
“哦，” 杰瑞米说，就跑出去玩了。在外面他就寻找最高的树，他把所有的地方都看过了就是不能找到一棵最高的树。
There were some scraggly bushes, but that was all. I think I'll swing instead, he thought. He started to swing, pumping his legs and arms as hard and fast as he could. Soon, Jeremy heard the screen door slam. His mommy was headed toward the clothesline with a basket of wet clothes. Jeremy slowed down his pumping and jumped off the swing. He ran toward his mother.
那里只有有蓬乱的灌木。还不如去荡秋千呢，他想道。他看着秋千，使劲地来回荡他的胳膊和腿。一会，杰瑞米听到屏风砰地一声被关上。妈妈提着一篮子湿衣服，朝晾衣绳这边走来。杰瑞米放慢他荡秋千的速度，从秋千上跳下来，跑到妈妈面前。
"Mommy," Jeremy asked. "How much do you love me?"
“妈妈，” 杰瑞米问道。“你爱我有多深？”
"I love you more than the highest mountain and higher," she answered.
“我爱你比最高的山还多还高，” 妈妈回答道。
Jeremy smiled and skipped upstairs to look out the window to find the highest mountain. But he didn't see any mountains at all, just houses that didn't seem very high at all.
杰瑞米笑了笑，蹦蹦跳跳地跑到楼上，朝窗户外面望去，寻找最高的山脉。可是，他连一个山也没有看见，只不过是些看上去不很高的房屋而已。
During dinner, Jeremy asked once again, "How much do you love me?"
吃晚饭的时候，杰瑞米又问：“你爱我有多深？”
"I love you more than the brightest star and brighter," answered his mother.
“我对你的爱比最亮的星星还要多，还要亮，”妈妈说。
Jeremy grinned as he sipped his last sip of milk.
杰瑞米喝完最后一滴牛奶，咧嘴一笑。
After his bath, Jeremy searched the night sky for the brightest star. But it was raining, and there weren't any stars to be seen. There was a sudden flash of lightning, and that startled him.
杰瑞米洗过澡后，向夜空望去，寻找那一颗最亮的星星。可是，天正下雨，根本看不见一颗星星。突然，有一道闪电一亮，把他吓了一跳。
Jeremy was quiet as his mother tucked him in that evening. "What's wrong?" his mother asked. "You haven't asked a single question since dinner."
晚上，杰瑞米很安静，妈妈把他放下睡觉。“怎么了？”妈妈说。“晚饭后你一个问题都没有问。”
"Mother," he began, "I looked outside for the tallest tree but all I saw were scraggly bushes. I looked for the highest mountain but all I could find were short houses; and I tried to find the brightest star, but all I could see was a scary bolt of lightning. If that's all that you love me, I don't think you love me at all."
“妈妈，”杰瑞米开始说道，“我去面寻找最高的树，但只看见蓬乱的灌木；寻找最高的山，可只看到矮小的房屋；寻找最亮的星星，可我看见的只有一道吓人的闪电。如果那就是你对我的爱，我想你根本都不爱我。”
Jeremy's mother stroked his blond hair as she gently kissed him on the cheek. "You sleep well tonight. Tomorrow I will show you how much I love you."
妈妈抚摸着杰瑞米金色的头发，轻轻地吻着他的脸颊。“今晚好好睡，明天我会告诉你我有多爱你的。”
The next day, Jeremy and his mom packed a picnic lunch. They got into the car and drove and drove and drove. Soon they came upon a big sign.
第二天，杰瑞米和妈妈准备了一顿野餐午饭。他们上到车里，驱车前行……没过一会，他们就遇见了一个大大的标识。
"What does that sign say, Mommy?" Jeremy asked.
“标识上写的什么，妈妈？” 杰瑞米问道。
"It says REDWOOD NATIONAL PARK," she answered.
“写的是红木国家公园，”妈妈说。
"Wow!" hollered Jeremy as he raced among the tallest trees he had ever seen.
“哇！”杰瑞米冲到他所见到的最高的树林里面大声的喊道。
"These trees can almost touch the sky. You must really love me a lot." All day long, they played alongside the giant trees and ate their picnic lunch.
“这些树木几乎快高到天边了。你一定是真的非常爱我。” 一整天，他们都在那些大树底下玩耍，享用着他们的野餐午饭。
As night approached, Jeremy and his mom drove home a different way than Jeremy could ever remember going before. They drove a long, long time. When the sky was almost all dark, they came to a stop.
黄昏时分，杰瑞米和妈妈开车回家走了另一条路，这条路杰瑞米从前来过可却不记得了。他们开了好长时间，天都要快黑的时候，他们来到一个停车站。
"Let's get out here a moment," Jeremy's mom said. "I want to show you how much I love you."
“我们出来在这里待会吧，”妈妈说。“我想告诉你我有多爱你。”
Jeremy's eyes widened as he looked down at the city lights.
杰瑞米的眼睛睁得很大，眺望这个城市的灯光。
"Where are we?" he asked.
“我们现在哪？”杰瑞米问。
"We are on top of the highest mountain. This is how much I love you. Look up there," his mommy said, pointing her hand towards the night sky. "Can you find the brightest star?"
“我们现在最高的山顶上，这就是我有多爱你。向那里望，”妈妈说，她的手指向夜空。“你能找到最亮的星星吗？”
The sky was full of stars dancing and twinkling. They were so bright and so close that Jeremy felt as if he could reach up and grab one.
夜空繁星点点，璀璨闪烁。星星很亮很近，杰瑞米感觉伸手都能够到抓住一颗。
"Mommy, they are all so bright. I could never find the brightest one."
“妈妈，它们都很亮，我都不能找到哪个最亮了。”
Jeremy slept on the way back to the city. He woke again while his mother was tucking him into bed. Quickly, while she was above him, he tried to think of something taller than the tallest tree, bigger than the biggest mountain, and brighter than the brightest star. He thought and thought, but it was hard. He had slept through his usual bedtime snack, and his rumbling tummy sort of distracted him. Finally, Jeremy looked at his mother with half-opened eyes and quietly whispered, "I love you, Mommy. I love you more than the tallest tree, more than the biggest mountain, and more than the brightest star. In fact, I love you more than the tastiest peanut butter and jelly sandwich!"
在回去的路上，杰瑞米睡着了，妈妈把他放进被窝里时他醒了。瞬间，当妈妈在他上面的时候，他使劲想什么比最高的树还高，比最大的山还大，比最亮的星星还亮，但还是没有想出来。他还没有吃睡前小点心就睡着了，隆隆响的肚子有点分散他的心思。最后，杰瑞米半睁着眼睛看者妈妈，轻轻地在耳边说：“我爱你，妈妈。我爱你比那最高的树还要多，比最大的山还要多，比最亮的星星还要多。其实，我爱你比那最好吃的花生酱和水果三明治还要多！”
His mother laughed, and Jeremy smiled and quickly fell to sleep.
妈妈笑了，杰瑞米笑了，很快一会就睡着了。 -
《B What U Wanna B 》(music)
2008-03-16 13:06:50
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a blue day
2008-03-02 12:32:06
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How to Get Over Your First Love
2008-02-20 20:01:18