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  • How to Get Over Your First Love

    2008-02-20 20:01:18

    Your Ex
    1.Cut off all communication with your ex. Harsh, but it's the only thing that works. You probably feel like you're losing the best friend you ever had. It might hurt at first, but it will get better. The only person who truly understood you. But you cannot be friends while you attempt to get over each other.
    2.Do not hook up with your ex. You will start right back at square one and all the work you did trying to get over them will be wasted.
    3.You will probably only remember what you love about your ex, and your happiest memories together. Recall why you broke up, what you hated about him/her, and what you could never agree on. If they cheated on you, stop justifying it and realize you can find someone who loves you and would never be unfaithful.
    4.Realize that just because this relationship is over, it doesn't mean that you'll never find love again. Ask your friends, your parents, your great-aunt Susan how they got over their first loves. Many people will remember how hard it was to get over their first love, but admit that they found greater loves in their lifetime.
    Friends and Family
    1.Don't try to get through this alone. Your friends are very important. They will help you survive by listening to you and offering advice. If you forgot about them while you were with your boy/girlfriend ask if you can be forgiven. If they really were true friends they will forgive you and want to help you get over it. Try to avoid friends who are very close with your ex, they are bound to talk about him/her and bring you down inadvertently.
    2.Talk and see your friends, and family more. If you make your world bigger, then s/he will become less important.
    3.Be open and honest about how you are feeling. Don't pretend to yourself, or others, that you are okay if you're not. Also realize that you are allowed to be okay. You do not have to feel sad all the time, or at all. Talk to people instead of just holding it in and being moody. Other people can support you, if they actually know what is going on.
    4.Remember there are other people that care. Even if it doesn't always feel that way, there are. There are people around you that understands, and will help.
    5.Do not ask your friends if they have seen your ex. Do not ask how s/he is; you do not want to know.
    You
    1.    Cry. It's okay to cry. Just let it all out. You will feel much better after you do.
    2.Use your breakup as an opportunity to become the person you have always wanted to be. Take on a daunting goal such as learning a new language, instrument, or skill. There has never been a better time to set these goals in motion, and now you have lots more time to do it!
    3.Fill up your MP3 player with the saddest love songs you can think of. Sad songs work wonders because you realize there are actually people out there more miserable than you. Or you may also want to try happy songs instead. Try some songs that were written to remind you that you're not the only one not having any fun and that you need to work to be happy again. Music will heal you, just give it time.
    4.Do anything you can to make yourself feel desirable. Get a haircut or highlights. Go to the gym. Buy a new outfit. Dress up and dance in front of your mirror to club music. Remember all the times s/he told you that you are the most beautiful person in the universe, convince yourself that it is indeed true, and that someone else will appreciate you the way s/he once did.
    5.Endure the pain and loneliness bravely. With time, the pain will heal. Are you a strong person who can get through this or a weak one that will wither from one failed relationship? Don't succumb to weakness. Retain your pride and hold your head up. There's nothing better than that.
    Tips
    • Don't be so naive as to believe that you will never love anyone as much as your first love. Most first loves and heartbreaks occur around in your teens or early 20s. You still have most of your life ahead of you to find the love of your life.
    • With maturity, your capacity to love another human being grows. Be grateful for the experience of your first love.
    • You will certainly be able to give your 100% again. Get that thought out of your mind.
    • Remember that getting your heart broken for the first time is a fact of life.
    • Recognize that you have the power of choice in your life.
    • Always remember, it's all in your head. This feeling is just a picture you have created in your head of the way you want things to be. Once you let that go, you'll be fine.
    • Never ever try getting back with your ex it will only hurt you in the long run.
    • Talk more!(and not necessarily about your ex) It's good to listen to others and what they have to say, but if you can talk more you'll find yourself truely getting your mind off of her/him for the time being.
    • If it has been a very long time since the breakup and it's either not going away or getting worse and worse, you should probably seek help.
    • If you feel suicidal, seek help. Nobody in your life should bother you to that point. So you really need to get help if you are.
    • Don't tell him/her that you still love them. Tell yourself that you, infact, don't love them anymore.
    • Don't pretend like you are still together and don't think of yourselves as a couple. If people refer to him/her as your boy/girlfriend, then correct them. Even if you know that you're no longer together, saying it out loud will get the message accross more strongly, and help you move on quicker!

    Warnings

    • Don't drink alcohol or get addicted to drugs to help get rid of your problems. It won't help in the long run, and it might end up making things worse.
    • After you hit the six month mark, friends will start snapping at you to just get over it. At this point you must stop feeling so sorry for yourself or you will begin to lose friends.
    • Stop the "Woe Is Me" stuff. It gets old so fast. If you're going to mope and feel miserable, at least have the intelligence to realize that you are not the only one in the world who has had their heart broken. Being aware of that, mope away, but try not to let it consume your entire day. This kind of thing makes you seem pathetic.
    • Avoid statements like "I'll never get over him/her." They just make you sound stupid and short-sighted.
    • Don't keep running back, although it seems like it will make things better, its only temporary. If you keep running back it makes it just that much worst in the end. Seriously, end it. Do not go back.
    • Don't resort to "tracking down" your ex's every movement. Having mutual friends tell you everything they're doing, how great they are, who they're dating, and how they don't talk about you will only make you feel worse. You don't need to know. You simply need to let it be. Remember - they will figure out what you're trying to do and you will look like the crazy one who's still not over it. Don't give them that satisfaction when you will be fine without it. This extends to using the internet to track down your ex's activities.
    • Don't stop doing things/watching things/listening to things etc. just because it will remind you of your ex. Such is life. You will only be limiting your life even more, and doing yourself damage. Not him/her.
    • Don't attempt any suicidal moves it'll only hurt you and your family. It hurts now ,but you'll learn to move on.

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  • Meg Ryan---my favourite actress

    2008-02-16 19:37:27


    Meg Ryan---American sweetheart,she is so cute that even women stare at her.
    I konw her from the film Sleepless in Seattle,which she co-starred with Tom Hanks(who is also a famous hollywood movie star).you konw,her eyes,her smile is so attractive,that i always keep her in my mind.I watched her other films recently, ex.When Harry met Sally,You've Got Mail,When a man loves a woman.She is the girl next door whose smile is as natural as her charm,I think.Maybe she will not well-beloved forever just like Meryl Streep,but people will not forget her smile.
    Now she is 48 years old,oh god,it is incredible.but her smile is still so sweet,so irresistible.

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  • Do not wait... 爱，永远禁不起等待

    2008-02-10 19:20:48

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    Don’t wait for a smile to be nice...
    不要等到了一个笑容才面露慈善　　　　
    　　　　　　
    Don’t wait to be loved, to love.
    不要等被爱了以后，才要去爱　　　　
    　　　　　　
    Don’t wait to be lonely, to recognize the value of a friend.
    不要等到寂寞了，才明白朋友的价值。
    　　　　　　　　　　
    Don’t wait for the best job, to begin to work.
    不要非要等到一份最好的工作，才要开始工作　　　　
    　　　　　　
    Don’t wait to have a lot, to share a bit.
    不要等拥有许多后，才开始分享一些　　　　
    　　　　　　
    Don’t wait for the fall, to remember the advice.
    不要等到失败后，才记得别人的忠告
    　　　　　　　　　　
    Don’t wait for pain, to believe in prayer.
    不要等到受伤了，才相信愿意祈祷　　
    　　　　　　
    Don’t wait to have time, to be able to serve.
    不一定要等到有时间，才能够去付出服务　　　　
    　　　　　　
    Don’t wait for anybody else pain, to ask for apologies...
    不要等别人受伤了，才来乞求原谅　
    　　　　　　　　　
    ... neither separation to make it up.
    不要等到分开了，才想到去挽回
    　　　　
    Don’t wait...
    Because you don’t know how long it will take.
    不要等待,因为，你不知道等待需要花费多少的时间

    Remember: Friendship is like wine, it gets better as it grows older.
    记得：友谊像醇酒，越久越浓。

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  • The new year,new dream!

    2008-02-09 21:09:21

    The new year,new begining,i wish my group can work hard to achieve some outstanding goals.i also wish i can improve my english .

    By the way,the day after tomorrow is one of my college classmate's wedding,i am so sorry that i can't join in,i bless you,guys,hope you can have a Olympic baby.

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