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My little sister 's boyfriend

2008-01-24 19:35:27

 My little sister who was only 19 years old when she graduated from high shool,she did not want to go on studying and left hometown to Guangdong for working.

 She is pretty and naive,she is very happy to seeing and facing everything.I help her to find a paper work job where is very closed to my rentle house.At the beginning of working two months,she offten went to my house to play (such as watching TV ect..) or chat with me about the case which happened in working in every night and got back to factory about 22:00 and every weekend holiday all would go here,I thnk she is a very docile girl in my heart.But I hardly saw her recently,may be something happend or her work was very busy, i was not sure.with no phone to contact,I must go to her factory personally to look for the result. to my surprise, I saw a boy who looks like the same ages as her was standing very near by her.I couldn't belive my eyes due to my sister is a very quiet girl and she never speaked a one word to every boy,she is very shy,but now....,I went ahead to them.and of course,she also saw me. " Hello,sister,this is Jack,my colleague and new friend. and this is my sister,Jack" we say "hello" to each other,and I used a quillet to let my sister to my house. " who are he ? tell me, and why not go here so long time (nearly half one month)" " He is my boyfriend." she said very undertone." and he treated very good for me and I am very happy with he. and he is same location as us."  " I saied to you so many time. the boy of outside is not credible and he will not give the trust loving to you. and said don't allow you find boyfriend in outside. and said that you are too little to make boyfriend ,you said yes,but now..... I feel very sad. please don't go on,ok? " No" she said loudly."I like him"  " But do you assured he will love you forever. she only cheat to you,you only meet him two months,and have not understanding all things about him,such as family and so so...if you keep on,i will let you go home, ok?" " I hate you." she said and went out at once.I chased her but not catch up.

The next few days,she aslo had not contact with me all along. and I still went to her factory but not find her, and I called to my good friends who reccommended her to go work,she said my sister still was working in that company and everything was going very well.perhaps she didn't want to see me and afraid I would blame her.but when she would comprehend i do the everything only for her.

Afer 6 months like this.one day,she came to my house suddenly, i felt very happy." I am so sorry ." " have a seat, please " "  I need, I need money" " what? " My boyfriend will do the career himself,but still owe the money of RMB 30000,please borrow me." I can't hear my hear." you said you borrow the money to him,why are you do that, you are only friends.and hardly understanding each other." " ok,i will ask for mother.bye." i felt very angry and gave a slap in her face,she was crying and ran up to my house.

I gave the message with mobile phone day by day,but she never feedbacked to me.From my mother mouth,she phoned to mother and said :" if don't not give her money,she will not go to home forever" and crying in the phone said my mother don't love her.

Till now,she also don't igmore us though the things had past one years. and now she is 21years now.

 




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Monica1981的个人空间 删除 Monica1981 发布于2008-01-25 18:53:16
well, well, well....

Let's imagine all girls at the age of 18 in China know how to use condoms to protect themselves.

Then, I answer the question: if that was my sister, what I would do...

I will be so happy that she got herself a boyfriend and I will invite them both for dinner one night.

Then I give my sister my personal opinions on her boyfriend and also I will tell her I support her ddecision no matter what she chooses to do with him....But I need to give her my advise on that boy.

Let's suppose that the boy looks like and even
talks like a rubbish,

Then I will ask her to be aware of the boy and aslo remind her to use sex protections all the time.

However, as a adult, she has her own brain to think about my advice....

Let's again suppose a tough reasult which is that she still believes in that rubbish boy and even want to borrow money from me to help him in business.

Then, I won't borrow her the money...

And I tell her:

"Ask your man to come to ask for money himself, if he is a man.....if he doesn' t know that you borrow money for him, well, I need to tell you, babe, you are an adult now...and you need to take your own responsibility to take care of yourself and same to your man! It is not my fucking business to take care of you both! If you are clear on that, you can try Mum and Dad...But don't expect me to ask money from our parents because I don't do these stupid things ! "

Okay, Let's also suppose that she didn't get the money and got angry with me so she refused to talk to me any more...

Well, I just leave her alone....

Yes, sister, you grow up now and you are on your own....for every single step you will make in future, you take fully responsiblity for it !!!

And That's how I solve this problem...

I won't slap her face because I have no right to do so...

I also won't feel guilty for I didn't try more to change her mind and take her away from that rubbish boy...because I believe I have done my duty as a sister...and I have no right to enforce an adult to do what I tell her to do....(not like your wired culture...the older one even have right to name the younger one, right Susan? )

I just believe that:

Everyone, every single adult in this world will grow up one day.....some girls have a better brainand they listen, they think, then they make wise decisions...and those girls grow up in an easy way......some girls are dumb..once they have sex with a guy..they are totally fucked up in mind and only want to sacrifice themselves for love....and those girls NEED to grow up in a HARD way....Leave them in the real world for a couple of years..and let them go for a couple of abortions...then finally they will become an adult and realize the mistakes which they have made in the past....

However, except these two types of girls, unfortunately in our society, we have a bunch of sluts who totally lost in their life...drugs, free sex, herpes, depression, crime, or even trying to kill themselves all the time.....

To these people, so fucking sad....and I can't see any reason and value for them to live in our world.....so I think they'd better finish themselves as soon as possible unless they decide to get their life sorted out....(YES, GOD needs them more than us...and God also needs them urgently.....)


I don't give a shit to which comments that you accept and which you don't....

I just tell you that's what I believe is right....you may totally disagree that a 19 year old should have rights to get herlself a boyfriend....whatsoever, that's your problem..not mine....

And I also believe what I believe can make this world a better place and reduce the amount of losers in our society.....
老曹的个人空间 删除 老曹 发布于2008-01-25 14:21:07 评5分
Susanyang, I support you intensively, of course Monica is right either, we know there is large difference of education and culture between oriental and occidental, just like most of Chinese say no while praised by other in contrary to American say thanks, in fact, both answers are same meanings.
Hugh 删除 hugh0341 发布于2008-01-25 13:50:07
To Monica:

I think there is nothing with sex,maybe you misunderstanded the true feeling of Susan.

We Chinese adult know how to use condom to prevent pregnant and abortion just as you NZ people.

What Susan worried about should be her little sister,we know that her sister just came to the new environment for work only a few month,she didn't know the society well,actually,there are many girls that were cheated by rogues,they were not only devoted the body,but money and other things.I don't know whether this could happan in your country,and there is no need to comment our political and education,maybe you had comment a lot about them.

Everyone should learn to protect  herself  include Susan's sister,and now we can see that her "boy friend " just wanted to borrow a lot of money from her,and he should have known that for a newer,how can she get such amount,she just came to her sister and family,of course every family will wonder why?and in this situation for your sister,what will you do?
Happy的个人空间 删除 susanyang 发布于2008-01-25 08:09:03
Dear Monica,
Thanks for your advise first.but you will never know of our education forever.For loving,is very conservative not on-limits by  your side.but anyway, I will accept your comments point 1 and 3
Monica1981的个人空间 删除 Monica1981 发布于2008-01-25 03:46:17
What The F*#&K ?!

1,

It is the fucking Chinese parents who have no idea how to teach and educate their children...

A 19 years old girl should be respected and treated as an adult...

If you think she is not old enough to have boyfriends, that's because your family didn't provide enough sex education and teach her how to be an adult !!!!

2,

Who the fuck give you rights to slap her face, uh?

If she was my sister, the first thing I will do is to teach her how to use condom, you stupid woman!!!

3,

If her fucked-up boyfriend needs money, you should tell her:

A real man will never put himself into a situation in which he needs a woman's money to start his career!

And You need to teach her to be a responsible adult instead of slapping her face and shaming her !!!

4,

Now she is possibly somewhere and absolutely abandons her life...

She also may have got AIDS....

You stupid moron, you could have done much more to get her in the right track....

What kind of sister are you ?!

5,

Who told you that 19 is too early to have boyfirneds, uh???

Don't tell me once again it is your ignorant parents who have been home-schooled by Communists !

19 years old girl is a proper adult....

she has her rights to have a boyfriend !

She has her rights to recieve sex education !

She has her rights to decide what kind of life she really wants !

She also have obligations to protect herself both physically and mentally !

You and your parents didn't teach her any fucking thing and expect her to learn life herself, uh?

Then because she has such useless sister and parents, she now has to learn life in a hard way !

And one day, when she becomes a proper adult and realized what responsibilities she should tak for herslef, she possibly has done abortions 3 times and got fucking AIDs !


Juses Christ,

No wonder why girls are so fucking stupid in China.....because the education for them is so appalling and wrong....

Honestly, my IQ is a hundred times higher than your 19 years old sister when I was 13.....
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